Feeling sad when pregnant

[AbsolutePlonker]

Hi all, this is a bit of self-pitying post. Has anyone else suffered with low mood/sadness in pregnancy? Particularly at work?

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with a very wanted 2nd baby. I also have a 2.5year old. Crappy pregnancy with lots of symptoms but nothing debilitating.

I keep feeling really sad, and I feel the most sad when I'm at work. I can't focus or motivate myself at work and am falling behind. I have no energy.
I was the exactly same with my first but I put it down to lockdown/covid, being trapped at home etc. I have the option to WFH or go into the office but I feel shite either way.

I still can feel happy when I'm with my family and friends - I just can't make myself engage at work. I really need the maternity pay from this job (which I used to enjoy) so I need to pull myself together! Any tips?!?!?

I get this too and I’m sorry you’re feeling so sad. It’s really hard sometimes. I was more sad at the start but still have down days now at 29 weeks.

My advice is to do nice things for yourself. I treated myself to some bath oils and skincare bits that I wouldn’t usually buy. Nice soft drinks to have with ice and a slice in a posh glass. Special biscuits etc. I’ve even taken myself out for breakfast!

Basically treat yourself like a very special guest in your own home. Your body is working very hard and deserves taking care of. I hope you feel better soon.

Just realised you said it’s mainly when you’re at work. The above still applies, take good care of you. Take breaks. I sometimes go and have a nap in the car at lunch time. Also take the odd sick day as a self care mental health day. They will cope x

I found it hard parenting a small DC and working when pregnant. In retrospect, which I could see while on mat leave, the main problem was actually at work: my boss was awful!

if there is no particular work problem would focus on doing OK with the things that are important or will be noticed if they slip.

@bookbathnap thank you, to be honest it's still great advice and really important to remember because we do just forget to put ourselves first sometimes!
@Loopytiles yes - tbh a large problem IS my boss and my workplace. But I used to be able to brush it off and just get on with it - now I feel like I have no resilience, no ambition, and no energy! I think I'll be taking a few sick days soon...