Hi All,
I'm 41, DP of 8 years is 46. Last year we found out we were pregnant. Complete shock but totally over the moon and elated.
2 days later I was in agony, began bleeding. Went to the local walk in urgent care (sent away, as they thought I was 'just' having an early miscarriage, even after the DR did bloods, urine and felt my abdomen etc) I couldn't walk and then in my delirium my waters broke. They did nothing.
DP drove me to a hospital an hour way. They sent me straight to a Gynae ward. An hour later a nurse took me into a side room in the waiting room and screamed for help. The umbilical cord was leaving my body and then after 3 traumatic hours and a great Registrar I delivered our 20 week old son. Had surgery the next day to remove the placenta and then arranged babies funeral.
As you can imagine, sudden, traumatic soul destroying.
We found out the 29th of August that we are pregnant again. I think we are around 6 weeks +4. I've had an early booking in appointment and my scan has been brought forward to 27th of Sept, so I should be over 8 weeks.
I do have 2 older children 14 and 19.
How do you get through a pregnancy positively after something so traumatic?
I'm taking each day as it comes and trying to be positive and focused.
It's so tough.
I just wondered if there are people who are or who have been here that are happy to chat. I know no-one personally that has been through anything like this.
Thanks if you got this far! ❤️