I bent over

[EllaChloe]

Hello everyone,
me again with another possibly silly question.

I have been driving myself insane over the past 2 hours as I was sat at a work meeting, dropped a pen and bent over my belly (I don't have one yet as I'm only 14 weeks pregnant) without even thinking about it and felt a bit of discomfort on my lower right side (a muscle perhaps?), so I've convinced myself that I have squished and killed my baby. I'm not in pain at all, everything feels normal but I can't get this fear out of my head. Am I completely crazy?

I can't call my midwife as I'm out of the country on a work trip until Friday.

Thank you for any comforting words you can share!

Yes you’re crazy ! I used to sit my toddler on my bump 🤣

That’s normal, it’s your pelvic ligaments stretching.

Hopefully you’ll feel better soon but if the anxiety doesn’t ease will you please see your GP or midwife? Talking therapies are really useful, or sometimes medication even in pregnancy.

Your baby will be absolutely fine OP!

Its ok - you can bend over all the way through pregnancy (until you physically cant).

Your body and womb is designed to keep baby quite safe. At 14 weeks your baby is still only 3-4 inches in size and has your whole womb to swim around in.

Baby will be fine.

Honestly you won't have done any damage at all! Baby is so small and still cushioned very very well in plenty of fluid and your pelvis! You probably just felt a bit of ligament pain from everything being very stretchy round your tummy and pelvis at the minute.

To put it into perspective, if you have other children in the future they will be jumping on you/bouncing off your bump etc, you bending down to pick something up off the floor won't even register as an issue

I was mucking out 3 horses daily at that stage and beyond, you’re absolutely fine and won’t have squished your baby at all.

Your body is designed to protect your baby, bending over to pick up a pen isn't going to squish it, don't worry!

I've got a friend who has horses who didn't know she was pregnant until she was 16wks, she was riding, falling off, shovelling poo, heaving heavy wheelbarrows about the whole time. Baby was completely fine, born very healthy and bonny a few months ago in fact.

You can still function as a normal human being right up until you have the baby and there on after.

As another PP said, you should talk to your Dr and/or midwife about your anxiety. If bending over to pick something up has worried you the rest of the pregnancy is going to be terrifying for you.

Thank you all! I can't express how much I love this community, I love being told I am crazy because it really makes me realize how much I am worrying over nothing. I very sadly lost one baby last year and think I'm thoroughly traumatized by the experience (it was a missed miscarriage so I didn't realize for a few weeks).
Thank you thank you all 💛💛💛

Good luck OP, try not to worry too much and enjoy your pregnancy 😊

I still didn't know I was pregnant at 14 weeks with first and was smashing out sit ups and crunches at the gym along with deadlifts and running. Baby is a grumpy 16 year old now!

We're almost anatomically identical to chimpanzees and orangutans that go whizzing around the jungle and swinging in the trees, you'll be fine bending over.

You're way to anxious though and might be better to have a chat with your GP as, in the nicest way, you're being totally irrational.

Oh bless you lovely, little one will be absolutely fine in there. I slept on my stomach until I was 24 weeks thanks to a smaller bump. And fell down the stairs, top to bottom, at 12 weeks. I was reassured countless times that baby is happy, safe and protected in there!!

Also I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and the heartache that comes with it. Please know that it was nothing you did previously. Nothing at all. I've very recently had a missed miscarriage myself and all anyone could tell me was that it wasn't my fault.

Yeah, because no pregnant women ever bend over.

🙄

You really need to chill out or this pregnancy won't be an enjoyable time but incredibly stressful.

I did yoga all through my pregnancy

Bodies are amazing

Early miscarriages are very normal unfortunately and they aren't your fault. That's why historically women wouldn't even think about being pregnant until around 3 months. Because it's out of your control

Thank you all for your kind words, I know I sound ridiculous and I apologise for that.
I'll follow the advice of starting some talking therapy as I can see how my anxiety is getting out of hand.
Thank you for taking the time to answer and reassure 💛

When I was pregnant with pfb our dcat slept soundly on my bump every evening while I watched TV. Her first word was dcat's name!

@EllaChloe - There's no need at all to apologise. When anxiety latches onto something it's very very difficult to rationalise it. Which is why you came here and hopefully it helped. It sounds like a good idea to get some talking therapy if you can - if nothing else it may help you with some mechanisms to rationalise in those situations and stop yourself spiralling. Wishing you all the best.

The wife of someone I know did full on weight lifting throughout her pregnancy and if anything it helped her deliver. If you’ve been afraid to bend over for weeks then your muscle probably twinged through lack of use! Normal movements won’t harm your baby.

I fell flat on my stomach when I was 18 weeks pregnant - all fine! Anxiety after loss is really really normal (I’d had years of IVF and miscarriages so I was a total wreck) and it’s honestly worth going to talk to someone about it ❤️.