My Pregnancy Woes

[Sayuri]

Hello everyone, I'm Allie and I'm expecting my first baby in September/October.

I think Im having a bit of a mood swing at the moment so I appoligise in advance.

I have been suffering with stomach problems pretty much since I missed my first period - I dont mean the lower abdominal pain, I have that as well, but nasty stomach ache/pain. It was effecting me every morning at the begining and now Im getting it at different times during the day. It is REALLY getting me down. It feels like the IBS pain that I used to suffer with. When I mentioned it to my doctor and midwife they just brushed it under the carpet but it is now really starting to get me down as between that and the lower abdominal pain I am getting one or the other pretty much all day.

Ive had no bleeding so I keep having to tell myself that the baby is most probably fine - although I had a suspected miscarrage last year and I cant help but worry.

Has anyone else had this problem, or can anyone shed some light on it? I feel that because of my midwife and GPs attitutde to the problem when I spoke to them about it I cant really "talk" to either of them about it or make an appointment to see anyone because I would be wasting their time.

My other woe is that at every mile stone I dont feel as though I am going to "make it" that far, like first doctors appointment, first midwifes, I make the appointments and then feel as though Im never going to get to the point where I need to attend them. My next appointment is for my dating scan - although the date hasnt come through yet - and I just have this constant feeling that they are going to do it and there isnt going to be anybody there.

I dont think it helps that my boyfriend is about 200 miles away at the moment, where he is most of the time, and Im feeling like I am dealing with everything on my own. He still hasnt come to terms with the pregnancy yet, although he is trying, and I cant really put all this on him when he isnt "there" yet.

See told you I was having a woeful mood swing

How worrying for you. If you are having pain on a daily basis, you should go to your local Early Pregnancy Unit and ask their advice.

Sorry you're feeling so rotten. If you have suffered with IBS in the past I dont think it would be unusual for it to flare up when pregnant - being pregnant can play havoc with your bowels anyway .

Can you ask to see another GP/Midwife - its a shame the ones you have seen haven't been sympathetic.

I would also try and see the EPU if its going to be a while till your dating scan. Because of your history they should see you no problem.

Good luck.

Sorry that you're having such a horrible time.

Having had a miscarriage last year, I totally understand the worry. You will feel so much better about things if they can give you a scan and reassure you. Have you explained your fears to your GP? Given your past history they should really refer you for a reassurance scan. If they won't, then perhaps you can contact your local hospital and see if you can get seen by the EPAU. Given the pain you are in, then I think it's entirely reasonable.

I haven't had exactly what you described, but I have had all sorts of strange things going on with my digestion and if I needed to go to the toilet it could be really painful. I didn't realise what it was at the beginning and thought there could be something wrong with the baby. Could it be something similar?

Good luck!

I had lower right abdo pain through out the first 5/6 months of pregnancy, I had a brilliant midwife who sent me for a scan quite early and they found an ovarian cyst. They choose to just monitor it (although itwas quite big) and eventually it went of it's own accord. Might be worth going to epu just to put your mind at rest. I had all sorts of aches and pains, more often than not put down to stretching muscles etc, and as for my bowels.... lets not even go there!!!
Every mile stone (which should be a moment of joy) was a hurdle for me to!!!!! I was constantly neurotic that it was all going to go pear shaped with each one, i had an hiv test as part of routine screening and for the next two weeks had a major panic every time the phone rang convinced they were going to tell me i was positive..... i had never even worried about hiv before, god knows what that was all about!?
no one can tell you it is going to be 100% perfect..... but do try and enjoy some of it.
Take care.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I havent told my midwife or GP about what happened last year, I was at another practice at the time, because they said that they couldnt be sure it was a miscarrage. As this pregnancy has continued both my partner and myself have become more convinced that I was pregnant as I am "reacting" in a similar way and also the events that lead up to things last year have never repeated themselves since...I experienced really intense period pain every day for nearly 2 weeks etc.

I think I am going to get in touch with someone tomorrow because I have been having a lot of lower abdominal pain today and Im just feeling so on edge about it all that I think I need the reasurance or at least to know what is going on. I think I am past the point of worrying about being labeled a panicey first time mother, Ive been putting up with things for weeks.