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HELP - pregnancy after a loss

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Sineadb88 · 11/09/2023 02:20

Hi 🙂

I am currently roughly 15 weeks pregnant. I have a little boy at 2.5 years and I sadly lost a little boy last year at 20 weeks. It was discovered last year at my 12 week scan that the NT measurement was extremely high, babys bowels and stomach where both outside the baby, I had a CVS test done which came back clear for chromosome abnormalities and our consultant believed the high NT was due to structural issues. We had weekly scans however sadly at my 20 week scan our baby was gone.

I was been for my 12 week scan and there was no appointment anvailable until I would have been over 13 weeks. On the lead up to the scan my anxiety has been so bad I have been ill. At my scan the sonographer struggled with poor visibility due to a lot of scarring inside my womb which the ultrasound could not get through. No measurements could be taken and no date given and also no scan picture. My scan was rebooked for 2 weeks later and I am
really struggling mentally to get through these two weeks.

I asked what difference two weeks would make as the scarring would still be there and she said we will get a date from the measurements of the baby’s head. Does this mean there is a potential to miss if there are any other issues ? Like the issues that were discovered in my previous pregnancy ? I explained to the sonographer about my previous loss but she seemed very uninterested.

If you have been through a pregnancy after a loss how did you cope mentally ? Did you find anything helped get you through it ? Did anything make you feel more at ease during/before scans? The scan I had was not the most pleasant as there was alot of “I just can’t see very well due to your scarring” which to be honest was making my anxiety a lot worse. The thought of going for scans is making me feel physically sick at the moment 🥺 I feel a lot of guilt for this little one that I am carrying as all I feel is worry and anxiety when I should be happy and excited.

TIA for any responses ❤️

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readingismycardio · 11/09/2023 03:41

Hi, OP!

First of all, so sorry for your loss 

Not your exact situation, and can't exactly answer your questions, but I had a MMC last year at almost 10 weeks. Currently 15 weeks pregnant (hey, we have the same due date?!)

It was terrifying all along. Every scan I had I was terrified. Sometimes I'm still terrified. I am lucky that I live in a country where I can get more scans for reassurance. It sucks and it steals all the joy.

Is there any chance you can book a private scan until then?

Keeping my fingers crossed for you and I hope you have a smooth pregnancy and a healthy baby! 🙏🏻

Sineadb88 · 11/09/2023 04:08

Hey @readingismycardio ☺️

thank you so much for your reply ❤️ thank you so much and I am so sorry for your loss too 😢

I went for a private scan at 7 weeks for reassurance. At around 9 weeks I woke up in severe abdominal pain which had me unable to speak or move for about an hour, I called early pregnancy and they told me to come straight in. I had a transvaginal scan and at this point they could see severe scarring inside my womb (I had 2 surgeries on my womb after my loss last year so the scarring is from these surgeries) the doctor advised me that the pain I was experiencing was from the scarred tissue being stretched and something I would experience probably every time I take a growth spurt. The pain was so intense it felt like contractions and I was so sure I was miscarrying. They confirmed the baby was fine at this point and that I would be closely monitored however at my 12 week scan I was told I would not have another scan until 20 weeks. I told her that I was advised by early pregnancy that i would be getting monitored closely and her response was “I know nothing about that” she was really not interested in anything I was saying to her. Hoping I have someone different at my next scan 🙄 I have been referred for maternity counselling but this is not for another few weeks yet.

how are you feeling recently about your pregnancy ? Is there anything that has helped you keep calm ? Sending you and your little rainbow lots and lots of love ❤️ xxxx

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