I am so lonely

[2ndtimemumm]

I don’t know if it’s 2nd pregnancy blues because no one really cares 2nd time round, hormones, tiredness or a mixture of all

I just feel so lonely like no one’s got my back. My DS probably does but he’s only 19mo he’s still very young

i Just feel so alone in everything. No one cares about me (again apart from DS) no one would care if I feel so blue and upset which I currently do

I don’t have any friends which my fiancé has said is my fault because I have awful people skills essentially. And this comment tipped me over the wdge it was during an argument with him but still hurt

💐Hugs.
How far along are you?
I found play groups great for meeting othe people.
Please don't take to heart what was said in an argument, I hope your partner doesn't have form for this type of comment.

@Greenflamesburn thank you. I am 22 weeks pregnant just over half way

I wouldn’t know where to start play group wise I do need to look it’s hard as my
local ones are work days and DS is at nursery/grandparents. I’d love. A wekeend one for like working parents :)

yeah he doesn’t. He’s done it a few times in our relationship and he’s always known after the heat of the moment he’s wrong for that action. I am trying not to take it to heart but I was tested for Asperger’s as a teen (I’m 23 now) and picked on for Social skills or ‘people’ skills so I felt a bit touchy as he knows this and it made me sad thinking can’t he just accept me for who I am

can anyone. I’m scared DS will grow up and just think I’m a mess

Congratulations 🎊

Have you looked in to family swimming times then? They are avaliable on weekday evening. You may also be able to find baby dance/gymnastics that run on the weekend. Definitely look into playgroups for when you are on maternity leave.
Have a look on local Facebook groups they should have some information about them.

Best advice I can give is, Only good mums worry they are bad mums, bad mums don't care.
Try your best and know your worth the children will be grateful for it.

I'm sorry to hear this. You could try using the Peanut app to meet mums. I've not tried it myself but have heard good things.

Your fiance's comment is cruel and unacceptable, and I'm not surprised you're blue living with someone who would put you down this way, especially while pregnant. I hope these kind of derogatory comments are just one offs because if he is doing this on a regular basis, this may be the very reason you feel lonely. At the very least you should expect support and care from the father of your children.