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How do you stop worrying

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Belle89 · 08/09/2023 20:32

I'm 5 weeks today, 2nd baby, other child was born 11 years ago so a bit of a gap.

I'm 33 generally healthy, had some mild cramping, neausea and very tired but can't help worrying something will happen that will cause me to lose the baby.
Had such a smooth pregnancy last time so seemingly no reason for concern. Actually have more neausea this time so more reminders of the hormones lol.
Is this a normal level of anxiety and how do you overcome it and just enjoy the wait?

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PickledScrump · 08/09/2023 20:36

My eldest was 12 years ago and I was young and naive. Second was 2.5 years ago and I worried more but still not so much. Now pregnant with third and I’m 33 too. I’ve been much more anxious this time. I think it’s just part of being older and more aware of things that could go wrong.

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Belle89 · 08/09/2023 20:38

I was so oblivious to anything last time round, I was pregnant and going to have a baby.
Now I'm more aware of the struggle it can be to even get this far.

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ASGIRC · 08/09/2023 20:39

This is my first pregnancy, and honestly, the anxiety is so bad I was at the hospital this morning, thinking the worst, but everything was absolutely fine!

Im 10 weeks already, have been the heartbeat a few times now, and still, it seems I cannot relax, always thinking something might go wrong, and I wont even know about it until my next scan!

Absolutely exhausting!

neverenoughwine · 08/09/2023 20:41

Belle89 · 08/09/2023 20:32

I'm 5 weeks today, 2nd baby, other child was born 11 years ago so a bit of a gap.

I'm 33 generally healthy, had some mild cramping, neausea and very tired but can't help worrying something will happen that will cause me to lose the baby.
Had such a smooth pregnancy last time so seemingly no reason for concern. Actually have more neausea this time so more reminders of the hormones lol.
Is this a normal level of anxiety and how do you overcome it and just enjoy the wait?

That's a really good question Belle, isn't it difficult!

I'm around 5 weeks 4 days. I'm 41 and we lost a baby at 20 weeks in August last year. I only found out I was pregnant 2 days before and just like that we were planning a funeral. It is was so unexpected. DP doesn't have children although he's become Dad to my two from a previous relationship.

I'm 41 and have a 19 and 14 year old.

Gentle congratulations, big hugs ❤️

Positivity is key and just being kind to yourself. I'm trying to relax as much as possible. Read, snooze a little more in the mornings, enjoy walks in the fresh air and

Whataretheodds · 08/09/2023 20:41

All you can do is focus on the things you can control, assume pregnant until proven otherwise, and do something every day that de-stresses you(yoga/breathworl/meditation/etc).

bakewellbride · 08/09/2023 21:12

Could you get an early scan? That helped ease my nerves with my second although I didn't relax fully until 12 week scan

MissSmiley · 08/09/2023 23:10

I had a miscarriage from my second ivf, got pregnant again on the fifth go, honestly I just told myself that worrying wouldn't change anything and tried to enjoy it, I'd waited so long, I won't lie it was hard at times

Thankyouthankyoujellybean · 09/09/2023 06:20

My 'method' is to go to the loo. If there's no blood I am happy that all is well. Of course some people bleed all the way through their pregnancy and the baby is fine. You could have reassurance scans every week, I suppose, but going to the loo is much cheaper!

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