Hi, this may be long and you’ll have to forgive the lack of up to date abbreviations, but I’m having a minor (major!) panic and just need some advice. I have 4 kids, the youngest is almost 10. During the c-section with her I was sterilised.
However, the past 5 months I’ve had either no period or a very light period each month, which is very unusual for me. I’ve also put a fair bit of weight on my stomach. Not fat, my tummy is hard but much bigger than usual. I’m exhausted all the time and very emotional. I’m almost 40 so put all this down to perimenopause as both my mum and grandma started in their mid 30’s.
Anyway, last Monday I realised I was feeling ‘movements’ in my stomach. I put it down to wind but it feels VERY much like those first proper kicks. You can also see it from the outside, it’s sometimes upper tummy, sometimes lower, it’s a very obvious ‘poke’ outwards, and it ‘responds’ (if I push my tummy, the movement happens, not always but sometimes). I thought it was some weird spasm or, as I said, wind. But it’s now been 11 days and it’s still happening on and off all day.
I’ve done 3 tests (an out of date cheapie i found in my knicker drawer, and 2 clear blue which is all I could get locally) and all 3 were negative.
I know this all sounds a bit crazy, but I genuinely don’t know what to do! I don’t want to make an idiot of myself by going to the GP, because I’ve had a few periods and tests are negative, but equally what else could be causing it?! Please be gentle, I’m having a rough time atm. I lost my mum last month and my sister in January so I feel like I’ve no one to talk to (don’t want to worry my husband yet as my last pregnancy was very difficult and I know he’ll panic), and I already feel stupid about all this ☹️ anyone ever experienced similar??