Pregnant and not with the father!!

[rhiimaeexx]

So just found out I'm pregnant! I'm currently a single mum to 1. Im not with the father of the pregnancy, as it was a casual relationship, he's been told but isn't bothered, he doesn't want me to keep it as 'it would be better for both of us'.
I'm stuck at my wits end right now and have no clue what to do! I feel like I want to keep this pregnancy, and I know I can do it alone as I've already done it with my oldest, and it would be lovely to give my daughter a sibling, but they will grow up not knowing who their dad is which isn't fair on them.
Just after some advice! Tia! Xxx

Sounds from what you are saying that you would regret it if you didn't keep it
This same scenario happened to my neighbour , a lovely girl who was a single parent after the father wanted nothing to do with her after the pregnancy , then the exact same thing happened again . But she is very happy with her little family
If you feel able to provide for another baby then good luck and congratulations.

Absolutely no mention of finances?

To be honest I don't agree in deliberately bringing a child into the world without a stable father in the picture - sounds like you'd be doing it just to provide a sibling for your eldest...so continuing would be for you and not the child?

You need to have a hard look at practicalities now.

How much CMS are you getting now for DC1, how much does the father of DC2 earn? (and then you can estimate CMS figure). How much do you earn, and how much paid maternity leave will you get? What childcare will you use, and how will that be afforded x2? Is your current accommodation big enough for another child?

What if this child is disabled? do you have space for them? Can you afford childcare x2? What if they don't get on?
Need to look at it properly, not just to give your child a sibling.

Well, they would know who the father is, just that he wasn't ready to be a parent.

The pp who said you shouldn't bring a child into the world without a stable father...are they unaware of the divorce rate? Or the people who are married to unpleasant men? The stable father part of it isn't something that happens the majority of the time, I'd say.

Well, they would know who the father is, just that he wasn't ready to be a parent.

did you read the Op? He doesn’t say he’s not “ready”. He doesn’t “want” the baby. There’s a difference