Anxious and Driving myself insane

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Uncontrollable at the moment!

I am currently 5 weeks and 4 days, i went down the rabbit hole of googling various things that could happen at this stage, and now i am absolutely petrified that I might have a blighted ovum, or i may go to my reassurance scan in two weeks and they'll tell me the baby isn't there. I keep going to the toilet to check everything is ok. I suffer from mild anxiety anyway and i just wish i hadnt read up on anything at all. Ignorance is bliss right?

I have some moments where im ok and some moments where im just totally freaking out.

Any ladies on here with anxiety? How do you cope ❤️

Me! I cope booking a private scan every 2 weeks 😂 And still, after 2 days I start panicking again. I just hope I will relax after the first 3 months (if I will ever get there).

If you can afford it, you could book an early scan in a couple of weeks, that should reassure you a little bit.

You will have a very long pregnancy and childhood years if you think like this constantly, maybe see your midwife about getting some therapy or you will put these anxieties onto your child

It is hard & you are not alone in this. I had my 13 week scan last week & had a bit of anxiety around it even with it being second pregnancy. Was so relieved when she said nice strong heart beat. I cried before this as she was getting ready to scan.Pregnancy can be a very anxious time but like OP above if you can afford to - perhaps private scan can help. Although at any point anything can happen in pregnancy it may give you some reassurance.Try not to read / watch negative things as it won’t help in the long run

@snoopy18 @Charming81 thanks both, glad to know im not alone ❤️ this morning i booked a scan for 7 weeks (which is 10 days away), so fingers crossed 🤞. @Charming81 I think ill be the same, I'll probably be crying before the scan too! @snoopy18 You are absolutely right, i will definitely steer clear of reading negative stories, and hopefully the scan will provide a level of comfort x

@WandaWonder i have a call from my midwife due soon so will definitely ask her to therapy/help, because you are right, this can't be good for me or the baby xx

I’ve never been pregnant but I have an anxiety disorder. The best thing I can advise you is not to google! If you have a genuine concern, make a note and save it for your next appointment or contact your midwife (not sure how the process works sorry). Googling for reassurance usually makes you feel worse. And most of these things are out of your control anyway!
Focus on staying well etc but don’t make this an obsession x

Have been pregnant twice, 2 losses, years of trying in total and anxiety here 😂 currently first cycle TTC since the second loss.
My advice is to keep busy in your day to day life, focus on what you can control (diet, exercise, sleep etc), remember you cannot change the outcomes by worrying about them. Easier said than done but worth working on!

i would say do not book lots of private scans.

1. it’s an expensive habit
2. it won’t change any outcome
3. even if they find something wrong they can’t do anything to help you
4. it could cause more anxiety, especially early on if your dates don’t match theirs
5. it’s very temporary. Almost as soon as you’ll leave you’ll start worrying again.

I would echo @Twizbe. I’ve just had a loss at 6+6 (although MC started at 6+3). I had reassurance scan at 5+5 and another at 6+1 due to sky high anxiety. Both showed a fetus measuring fine with a heartbeat but k went on to lose the baby a couple of days after last scan anyway. I’m not saying this to scare you - chances are you’re going to be fine - but point is the scans can’t tell you whether everything is going to be ok. Even a heartbeat is no guarantee. If I get pregnant again I won’t be bothering with scan until at least 8 weeks as consultant told me that a heartbeat at 8 weeks means something much different than any earlier scan so the earlier ones are really just pointless. Wishing you happy and healthy pregnancy x

I'm at a similar stage (5+6) and can totally relate. I have adhd which leads me to overthink and obsess over things!

Try and keep off your phone as much as you can, unless you have urgent concerns then obviously reach out to your midwife or EPU.

Keeping busy and prioritising self care is the best way to distract your mind. If you're up to it, maybe some prenatal yoga. I haven't tried it yet but lots recommend pregnancy meditations (YouTube no doubt has loads).

I started listening to the "is it normal" pregnancy podcast on Spotify yesterday and found that quite reassuring.

I've basically been trying to focus on the fact that nothing has given me reason to be worried yet, so keeping my thoughts positive and focusing on my wellbeing (e.g. exercising when I can, eating as healthily as I can, drinking lots of water).

I'm 7+6 and have been really anxious since I found out. What's been helping me is doing daily yoga, walks and also positive affirmations. Mine are "today I'm pregnant and I love my baby"; "nothing I do will change what will happen, I'm allowed to take joy in my pregnancy" and "my baby is healthy and growing well until I am told otherwise".

I also am avoiding google and anything that involved references to miscarriage/loss of the baby.

I had an early scan too and I have to say I'm not convinced it massively reassured me but you might be different.

please Don’t google. Only check NHS website. And keep note of questions or concerns to discuss at your booking appointment. And focus on what you can control - exercise if you feel like it, healthy eating, things that help you relax. I was so surprisingly calm during my first pregnancy which unfortunately did end in a loss-but there was nothing I could have done to stop that, and that has helped me deal with it.

do seriously think through the early scan. I didn’t have one before my loss, and I’m pleased with that decision because it never really felt that real. I think if I’d had a scan and seen it, it would have been much harder. You only know everything is fine in those few minutes of the scan. I know it would make me more worried than less