Wright gain comments in pregnancy

[Gemstonez]

hi

I was just wondering how people deal with the weight gain comments in pregnancy. I am normally slim (not massively skinny but slim) and always managed to maintain a similar weight but since getting pregnant I have put on around 3 1/2 stone. I am currently 38 weeks pregnant and just wish everyone would stop making comments. The cherry on the top was a family member showing pictures of me saying how much weight I had put on. It really got to me. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive but I can’t seem to block it out. This is the last thing I want to be worrying about now as all I want to concentrate on is my beautiful baby coming into the world!
xx

I'm blessed with resting bitch face so didn't attract too many comments.
My usual responses to such things would be to say "Oh, okay" which doesn't leave much room for discussion, or "Yes, I'm growing a baby."

How rude, you are literally growing a human and storing fat to potentially feed your child. Its hard dealing with the quick weight gain as it is without people commenting, I would be furious. Just ignore them, most of it will be gone within a year. 3.5 stone isnt even that bad and a lot of that will be water/blood/baby/placenta. Try and enjoy these last couple of weeks

Trust me, happens even if you haven't gained weight! I'm pregnant with my first (28 weeks). Had all the usual 'ooo i wasn't that big at this point even wjth my 4th', 'are you sure there is only 1 in there' and 'if it's that big you're going to need a c section to get them out'.

Don't get me wrong, I have a sizable bump. However, I was so ill first trimester I lost over a stone and it's still not fully gone so putting it back on has been slow. I finally reached pre-pregnancy weight this week (which considering baby, placenta, fluid, blood etc means I'm actually still under). I've fought damn hard through nausea and food aversion so it's really not helpful. Even the midwife at my most recent appointment told me my BMI now puts me as obese so I need to think about my diet 🤨. NHS guidelines say 10kg is healthy to put on while pregnant, not sure how many people can afford to put on 10kg and still be a 'healthy BMI'.

Everyone loves to comment on a pregnant persons body, I'm resolving to ignore them.

Some options, most of which involve tilting your head to one side and smiling sweetly:

"Gosh, what a strange thing to say"
"I wonder what made you want to tell me that?
"Do you always comment on pregnant women's bodies?"
"I'm hoping to lay down another stone or so before the baby comes"

If anyone said that to me I'd just give them a straight faced stare after the comment, just for long enough to make them realise that the comment was inappropriate!

I'm in a similar situation and find it so rude. I've decided that when someone says it to me again (there will be a next time!), I'm going to say 'if I get an eating disorder next year then know that you're responsible'. I'm sure that will shut them up.

I also know that these people come January will be saying that they need to go on a diet etc. so at that point I'll also be agreeing with them and asking what they've been eating (just like they have been asking me recently), rather than my usual 'oh you're fine as you are'.

Try and enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy OP x

I feel the same OP, and have people telling me I need to try and be more active and look after myself better. Everything I have read says that what I need to do is listen to my body and slow down a bit if I need to! It is getting really frustrating as it's making me feel as though I'm doing something wrong when actually weight gain, feeling tired/sleeping badly and not being able to move very fast at this point is completely normal. Ugh!!

YANBU

My retort is 'well I could say the same about you!'

I've also had 'you look very pregnant' well that does tend to be what happens 🤨

It’s sad that so many people experience the same thing. I’ve never been body conscious in my life so god knows what it feels for people who are already body conscious. I would never in a millions years comment on anyone’s weight gain pregnant or not so that what baffles me!

Like you said I’m going to try and enjoy these last few weeks before bub arrives and let any negative comments go and put it back on to the person that’s said it!! Xx

I’d personally find it hard to not retaliate with something like ‘thanks for your unwanted opinion on my body while I’m growing another human’ ask if they want your opinion on their body!! Xx