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Pregnant and not happy in my relationship

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Ladywolf1 · 04/09/2023 09:28

I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant which me and my partner of 1 year are happy about both our fordt child, however there has been many issues with the relationship since before I found out I was pregnant. He is overweight which I never knew until we met. That's one thing I looked past to start with because we got on so well. But since the relationship went on I realised his weight gain was from his excessive eating habits and constantly eating sugary foods and junk food. I said something needs to change and he feed me lies how he would Start looking after himself and go gym and that did not happen.
He has became lazy and all he does is sit on his phone gambling even when he is with me. I feel like im second best to a phone because it is CONSTANT and he even does it when we go and eat out. I took him to Bournemouth for his birthday and he spent the entire time on his phone. I care about him but he has some disgusting habits aswel and i am finding it very unhygenic especially now im pregnant i cannot be around someone like that and and when i mention it he replies with 'what's it to me'

He hasn't bothered to tell work I am expecting either which means he also doesnt bother getting the time off for scans. I had very early
scans due to a fibroid and needed to be monitored. I am considering ending it with him because this issue with him has been constant from the start and now me being pregnant has made it even harder to just leave but I am so unhappy right now and its down to him this should be a time im really happy but im not.
Need some advise please.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/09/2023 09:46

You're very hormonal now and I think your sense of smell will be stronger so anything 'gross' will make you feel sick.

In general is this a good guy, is he nice to you, does he make you happy?

Do you think he'll be a good dad? Would he help and coparent if you're not a couple?

What would you think of the relationship if you weren't pregnant?

I've been a single mum since a bad break up during pregnancy and it's hard but doable with family support. It's possible to coparent a baby but its 95% me and exp visiting and playing with baby.

It's gross that he doesn't seem to take care of himself but you've known this since early on, he's unlikely to change this just from you nagging him it's something he has to decide himself.

If I were you I would calmly explain how you're feeling and explain some deal breakers for you to continue the relationship and a time line for things to get better. You shouldn't stay with someone you don't like or fancy at all though just because you're pregnant.

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