I’m staying with my parents this week, 10 days home visit. I’m TTC for 6 months now, we had a really good go at it this month. I’m now 10 DPO, period due in 7 days. I have a FRER with me and argue whether or not I should test…
I’ve tried to drink as little alcohol as possible without completely refusing it. Wine at dinner is very normal for my parents and I’m known to be a wine lover. I managed to get around it these past two days, but my mum starts to watch me like a hawk, she is suspecting something. If I refuse again tomorrow, she’ll think that I am pregnant. She’d also tell the entire family because she just can’t keep a secret. And I might not even be pregnant, of course 🤦♀️
If I take the test tomorrow and it’s positive, I’d just have to be firm about not drinking and accept that everyone will know…but I’m 40 and there is a chance that it wouldn’t even go ahead, I’d really hate her checking in on me every second day how I’m feeling (she’s very overbearing and would do that).
Part of me thinks not to test, sip on a small glass of wine on some of the evenings this week, and then test on the weekend when I’m back with my partner. That will be 2 days before my period is due. Then we can find out together and no one else needs to know until we are ready to share the news.
Would it be very unreasonable to put the pregnancy question aside for this week and have alcohol, considering that it is still before my period is due?
(also, I can’t make up another reason for not drinking such as antibiotics, my mum is a doctor and I ask her for advice on medical problems, and as a consequence she knows what I’m taking and not taking. My partner is not here with me so we can’t discreetly swap glasses either).