Pregnancy after miscarriage

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Good afternoon ladies, looking for some words of guidance or advice please as I am really struggling…

I’m 19 weeks pregnant and following a 9 week missed miscarriage in March I am still struggling to get excited and enjoy my pregnancy and it’s really affecting me mentally but I just don’t want to talk to anyone about it.

I have recently started feeling movement, I have an anterior placenta so they are still quite faint but then days when they are more reduced I instantly worry that something is wrong and I just can’t help it.

I am also currently on antibiotics for a UTI for the second time this pregnancy in the same month so I am also very worried about this.

Please, please somebody help me

Thank you🫶🏼

Hi
I have been in your position but wanted to give you some reassurance with movement. I’m 21 weeks and I feel hardly anything. Every now and again I feel a slight twinge but it could just as easily be digestion, nothing that I know is definitely the baby. I had my 20 week scan last week and he is quite a small baby, I’m also small for 21 weeks and I was very fit prior to pregnancy do the muscles in my stomach were tight. There are so many factors when it comes to feeling movement. Ever time I’ve raised it the midwife hasn’t been concerned at all and the scans and Doppler are always fine. If you get yourself into a panic (like I have a couple of times) just give early pregnancy a call and they will more than likely check you over for your reassurance :)

I was in same situation too. 3 miscarriages and absolute misery and anxiety.

I didn’t really feel much until after 24 weeks, but then after 32 weeks I felt like there was a thug in there all day kicking and keeping me awake at night kicking my ribs. Be careful what you wish for…..they will make themselves known to you soon xx

I had an interior with my first and didn’t feel movement until 23 weeks.

You are allowed to feel worried, can you talk to some friends or family? Sometimes it helps to say it out loud and have a hug and a cry and let some things out!

I would say definitely take some female specific probiotics such as LoveBug along with your antibiotics and continue throughout your pregnancy. This should help your good bacteria in the vag and help prevent another UTI and it’s generally good for you in pregnancy, there’s a lot of research on it at the moment.

I am 7 weeks again after multiple losses this year so I can only say I know how you feel. ❤️

Oh wow congratulations on the new pregnancy, all the best for you!

Do you mind me asking how far you were along with your losses this year?

I just don't want to talk to anyone about this and the trouble is people don't know about my miscarriage! It's so hard and everyone is so happy about me being pregnant so it's hard to talk to people I don't know want them to know I'm worrying

Hiiii!

Congratulations 💛

I hear you. Your feelings and thoughts are completely normal due to circumstances.

Truth be told; fear and anxiety are part of your journey. I feel like we lose that innocence that we had before loss.

Saying this.. statistically, the odds are in your favour. I think there is a book where you can take it one day at a time, and go from there?

Do you follow any miscarriage/pregnancy after loss pages on Instagram? There are so many women who are in the 'pregnancy after loss club'. Definitely a club we are all grateful for.. even if we didn't want to be members :)

Is there not anyone who you can talk to in person at all? Is there a reproductive trauma service near you?

Glad I found this thread! I’m still very early in my pregnancy but miscarried at 7 weeks in October 23 so I’m freaking out. As I’m so early I haven’t told anyone (other than my partner) about this pregnancy but I’m in a constant state of anxiety 😟

I am currently TTC again after an MMC found at 12 week scan in the Autumn. I am hoping to have an earlier private scan next time since I absolutely dont want to go through 12 weeks of pregnancy to find out the same thing has happened again.
The report from my scan says embryo of 6 weeks gestation. Am I correct in thinking that I would have been 8 weeks pregnant at the time. Not sure whether they are talking about the start of my pregnancy, ie, the first date of my last period or roughly from the date of conception or even the date of implantation. I dont want to get scanned too early. I really want it it be after the point where the embryo stopped developing last time.