Am I being over emotional

[Mumm1993]

Hi all -
this is is my first pregnancy, I’m about 29 weeks.
Partner has never been the most affectionate/touchy feely in general but we’ve always had a good sex life.

We still have frequent sex (1-2 times a week) but when out of the bedroom he really doesn’t seem interested in any physical intimacy.
He seems so have no interest in touching my bump or feeling the baby move, skirts round me in the kitchen/living room rather than placing his hands on me at all, no little kisses or anything at all when we’re not in bed an honestly I get 1000% more love and affection from the dog atm.

im obviously feeling quite insecure about my changing body and am freaking out that he doesn’t find me attractive any more (I don’t think men need to be necessarily attracted to you to have sex, so the fact we still have sex isn’t reassuring).

am I just being a hormonal pregnant lady :( I feel like he doesn’t acknowledge or love my changing body at all and I’m worried my self esteem is going to hit an all time low as I continue to get bigger and post partum aswell :(

i also don’t want to bring it up because then I feel like any physical affection isn’t genuine - not sure what I’m looking for in terms of replies - maybe just a virtual pat on the back 🤣

Good on you guys still having sex!

i think it’s a bit of a romantic view to expect the guys to want to feel the kicks , touch the belly etc….they don’t have that connection just yet. It’s easy for you because you can feel it and already have a relationship.

to him it’s probably just a bump getting in the way!

I think there’s a lot of social media pressure that’s guys should be embracing our beautiful pregnant bodies and what we create. In reality, as beautiful as it it, we are the same old girls with a waddle.

enjoy the fact you still have an intimate relationship at 29 weeks….it will all be over pretty soon hahah

Your feelings are so valid — both because you’re feeling them and because a change in behaviour in your partner will obvs affect you! Have you really not talked to him about this at all? Not in a confrontational way (so not “why don’t you… anymore” etc etc), just about your feelings (something like “I need extra love and affection rn”). Re the concern about a positive change being genuine — if he ramps up the affection after you express your needs, that would by definition be genuine as he’d presumably do that because he genuinely cares about you!

Thank you both for your replies <3 they both very much helped when I was in the throws of emotion at 4am.
I’ll definitely broach the topic with more of a “I need this..” approach, very useful advice thank you :)
and I totally agree I’ve most likely got caught up with social media posts of men loving over their partners belly’s.

xx

@Bluesheeps "to him it’s probably just a bump getting in the way! "

Fuck me, the bar is low for men, isn't it???