When did you tell people you were pregnant?

[Chaoscontrol]

Hi 😊 I am 6 weeks pregnant and desperate to share my news but so horrifically anxious at the same time.

I got pregnant for the first time and had very early loss last November, I have passed my loss week this time round and my tests are so so strong, dye stealers since day of missed period, my symptoms are consistent and so different from last time round so I'm really positive. I have booked a private scan for 7 weeks so hopefully will have something to show people..

But when did you tell people?

My husband says the more people you tell now, the bigger the support system, and I get that, but I see it as bigger the heartbreak if my body fails me again.

Any advice would be great 🤍 Thank you 👼🏻

Last time we told my partners parents as soon as we got the positive test as they knew we were doing ivf. I told my sister after the 7 week scan as she told me she was pregnant first! And then most other friends/family we told after the 12 week scan. Think we announced around 13 weeks.

This time we haven’t told anybody yet and I’m currently 9 weeks. We did have a positive 7 week scan but I’m petrified something will go wrong this time. We have another private scan booked next week at 10 weeks and then we will probably tell my partners parents and then everyone else again after 12 weeks.

There’s definitely no right or wrong. Do what you feel comfortable with! My best friend basically told everyone she knew as soon as she got a positive test but she’s a really open book and they had been trying for years so I think she just got excited.

Some people want support if they miscarry. For me I’m much more guarded and wouldn’t want anyone but my partner to know.

I told people very early. To be honest, I don't understand the 12 week thing. If something awful happens,(and it did, once) I wanted the people around me to know, because I didn't want to have to pretend or explain. I think it's more to protect other people, frankly.

I told my closest friends straighf away.

I told my mum at 10 weeks, just because I saw her in person and wasn’t feeling great.

I told work at 14 weeks.

Congratulations I left it as late as possible in case I would mc again. Obviously I told my parents and sister after my DH but friends etc only found out very late.

I told my mom and a couple of close friends at 4/5 weeks.
I then had a scan at 7 weeks and told most of the family (we get together almost every week, me not drinking would not pass muster. The only reason I told them so late was because it was August and people had been on holiday!)
Im now 9 weeks, have had another good scan, so will now tell more people, if it comes up.

Not planning on telling work until after 12 weeks, as theres no reason for them to know earlier than that, and announcing to the wider world will also happen sometime after that, maybe 20 weeks.