I’m 29 weeks pregnant have 2 children from a prior to relationship and my partner at the time also has two children from a previous relationship. I’m pregnant with our first child together and his first baby girl.
He is an extremely hands on dad with the two sons he has, long story short the relationship has gone to complete 💩. After an argument he’s decided he wants nothing to do with me and I’ve taken away his excitement of becoming a dad again. He knows where it stands when it comes to baby and he’ll always have a right to see her when she arrives.
The relationship has been up and down, we don’t live together but he had a good relationship with my two daughters prior to our argument (petty one may I add)
Deep down I know it’s best we go our separate ways I’ve been unhappy for a little while with how I’ve been treated by him and the hot and cold moods.
The last message I received was if it comes to court he will deal with it. Which is bizarre as he knows he’d never be denied access but I think he’s personally just trying to use a power trip. Anyway he told me he doesn’t want anything to do with me at which I responded if he’d still like to have updates/be at the birth etc. He’s ghosted my message and I haven’t reached out to him since.
If you was in my position would you bother updating him when it probably won’t be appreciated? How would you go about co parenting with a newborn? (He lives in shared accommodation so his kids now stay every other weekend in a bedroom with their dad), surely this won’t work with a newborn added to the mix? He works long hours 7-7 so would want to see her in the evenings most days but he’s an hour away from me and I don’t want to confuse my other two kids by having him around once baby is here if I can avoid it 😫
I really want it to work for everybody’s benefit but I’m really struggling to see how it will. I’m 99% sure he’ll try be a hands on dad when she’s actually here regardless of him bouncing from me at my most vulnerable time