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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Pregnant with a newborn

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Babooamoo · 28/08/2023 20:43

I just had my second baby 11 weeks ago and am now 5 weeks pregnant. We were wanting a 3rd baby in maybe a year or 2 but we didn't expect it so soon especially after starting the pill but obviously we didn't give it enough time. My main concern now is I'll be 34 weeks pregnant when I'm due back to work and will eventually have a newborn and 10 month old and thats if I carry to term which I've read can be a risk of back to back pregnancy. Has anyone with similar circumstances any advice on what do to and how to cope?

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livinglifetothefull · 29/08/2023 19:30

congratulations i have no real advice but I know what i would be doing .
How does you other half feel about it .
If you both feel you can cope go for it .

Mumoftwo2022 · 29/08/2023 19:38

Wow congratulations but I couldn’t do it. My second is 10 months old and to imagine a newborn baby on top just seems impossible but women do it just alot stronger women than me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
you’ll need to get a lot of family support to help with the older ones. Are you breastfeeding cos that’s another thing to think about tandem feeding it’s a lot.

what does your partner think .

Stichintime · 29/08/2023 19:39

Consider it an expensive and tiring blessing.

Mynextusername · 29/08/2023 20:38

No advice but I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old.
mid i make it to my scheduled section date baby 1 will be 10 months 4 days old .
it wasn’t expected!
just as an FYI, all the doctors and midwives have been really relaxed about it being back to back. The main risk for me is that I had a section last time so will need a section again and not to labour naturally, maybe growth scans from 28 weeks and that’s all.

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Babooamoo · 30/08/2023 16:58

We were wanting another eventually so just going with the mind set that we're going to be busier and money tighter than we expected now I'm having very little income for the best part of 2 years on smp. My main concern was I was told having them so close can result in a preterm birth and after just having a precipitous labor aswell think I'm just overwhelmed ans thinking worst case for now. Just going forward with a positive attitude.

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SingingSands · 30/08/2023 17:43

This has happened to a couple of my friends. It is what it is!

Congratulations!

Bibijuju · 30/08/2023 17:44

Hi OP, my babies will be 11 months apart, I’m in my 3rd trimester atm- my pregnancy has been low risk and no concerns raised to me re. having my babies back to back. I did have a vaginal birth with no interventions with my first. I also had a precipitous labour as well which has been recorded on my notes but my midwife hasn’t expressed any worries regarding pre term birth so at the moment I’m trying to just keep healthy and active (which is easy with an almost 9 month old) and if I have any concerns I would phone triage.
feel free to DM me

Bibijuju · 30/08/2023 17:45

I will also add that the amount of people that have said to me that they know others with very small gaps (< 1 year) has been very reassuring!

rainbowtea23 · 30/08/2023 19:17

I’m currently 27 weeks pregnant with a just turned 10 month old. Hopefully I’ll make it to 37 weeks and have a planned section after an emergency one last time when he’ll have turned 1 the week before 😂 feel ok with everything at the moment I’m sure I’ll be tired when baby comes but also quite excited. After a long journey with infertility the last thing I expected was to fall pregnant again so soon but I’m so grateful not to be experiencing the heartache it took for my first.

BBno4 · 31/08/2023 06:00

Hey my sons have 11 months age gap so not as close as yours but still close.

Look after your body.

The second pregnacy was the one that changed my body shape forever, my 3rd didnt make a difference.

I was still really slim after my 1st so I thought I would be the same after my 2nd but no. Make sure you are getting lots of walks in and gentle exercise.

After the birth and the first few months, it will be hard. But they will grow up together and it'll be all they ever know. They will play with eachother and the second one will pick up stuff the first one has learnt. I ended up potty training them at the same time. If they are the same sex you will be able to use the same clothes aswell.

I would say you need to try and get the 1st one into a sleep routine before the 2nd one is born otherwise it'll be hard.

We really struggled until they were about 3 because we didn't sort their routine out, and I do wish I had tried to get the 1st one into a routine beforehand.

Now they are 12 and 13 and are best friends and I am so grateful. When I watch them play and talk to eachother it melts my heart. They have an amazing bind and I never have to worry in the holidays that they are bored. I also send them to the shops and park together and they have eachothers backs.

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