Calling all 1st time preganant mums - who believes we deserve a mothers day present tomorrow?

[Cheekster]

Is it just me but I sort of expected a little token gift of some kind tomorrow.

But I have just been informed by DH that that wont be the case and I will have to wait until next year

I wouldn't have liked a present at this time last year. I would have felt like I was almost jinxing myself.

Might he not have been telling the whole truth? Wait and see.

No he was definately telling the truth - I think he s thinking the same - and doesnt want to jinx things after our first pregnancy ended in mc.

But I hate that! Why cant I enjoy this pg just beacuase of what happened last time!

Why do you need presents to enjoy your pregnancy?

I didn't get anything for mother's day when I was pregnant with DS (but I had only found out I was pregnant on the Friday).

I would have felt a bit strange getting a mother's day present before I was a mother tbh.

i didnt get Mothers Day pressies either as i wasnt a mother till i gave birth. Sorry to be blunt but before you know it..next years Mothers Day will arrive and honestly it does flies by

Erm, I didn't get anything for mother's day when pg, and didn't get anything last year when DS was 7ish months old.

DH has been informed that now DS is a toddler and able to wield a paintbrush, a card might be in order, but who knows...

I dont. But this just adds to a multitude of other things
e.g. not being able to even talk about pg until after 12 weeks, still after 5 months DH doesnt want me to buy anything baby related.
And pg and baby are still not really spoke about now. DH and his family have said that they 'arent getting their hopes up this time'

I just wish they could be more positive.

That's tough, Cheekster

Sounds like the present is the tip of the iceberg.

Maybe don't focus on it, because (although you know it's not the reason) your DH might think you just want a present.

But do talk to him, do tell him how hard you're finding not being positive about the pregnancy, etc. Because whilst there's always a chance of things going wrong, in everybody's pregnancies, there's always the likelihood that it'll all be OK. And it does seem a shame not to be able to celebrate being pregnant and look forward to your baby, just because of the what ifs.

Hope your chat goes well. Your DH is probably terrified of something going wrong though, so be gentle with him. He's not carrying the baby and feeling kicks, etc - so he doesn't know things are fine - he has to rely on you to tell him.

perhaps you could take yourself off for the day and have a manicure or a haircut or something as a little gift to u from the baby?

i would have liked a bit of spoiling, and you can get mum-to-be cards.

however, i know i didn't want a card as i'd have felt it would have been bad luck, but i'm supersticious and refused to even buy anything until i was 24weeks.

I need presents to enjoy my pregnancy. Well.. I don't.. but like.. they really HELP!

..hehe.

i've told DH that i don't want anything. Our DD is 7wks old, don't really see the point just yet.
Next year i'll be expecting something for sure, and i'll get him something on fathers day.

Well personally I wouldn't even think of it. I didn't get anything when I was pg, or last year when ds was 7 mths and I don't expect I will get anything tomorrow and ds is 18 mths. I'm not that bothered. Ds is too young to know what it's all about and I don't see the point in dp getting me something that is supposed to be 'from' ds. I wouldn't 'expect' anything anyway, surely that defeats the object, it's the thought that counts. When they are old enough to make a little card or choose something for mummy and daddy it's quite sweet but I certainly wouldn't be upset if I didn't get anything.

my sis sent me a silly card 'from' the baby cos she said she thought she'd forget this year. Plus a fridge magnet that says 'Children are invaluable - you never know when you might need blood or a kidney'

She's NOT pg, needless to say. Did make me laugh though.

Mumsnetters are obsesses with reciving presents. Its all Dh didnt get me this for valentines/birthday/anniversery/mothersday.

There is more to life than avid cosumerisam.

When I was buying a card for MY mum, I noticed they had several for mums-to-be. I didn't end up being given one today though

Cheekster, that sounds tough. At least you can come on here and chat excitedly to us about the imminent arrival of your baby... Yay!

Last June DP was planning what the baby could 'buy' him for fathers day. So I kept my legs crossed for an extra 4 days. He said id done it on purpose so i didnt have to get him anything!! If it was mothers day when i was due of course i would have expected something

good work mumbear well done for thwarting his plans and making him wait 362 days for a FD present

I think mothers' day is a load of old shite and I don't ever expect to get anything from the baby I'm expecting in 6 days. I got this idea from my own mother and so have never even wished her a happy mothers' day as she would either laugh or grimace.

But Cheekster that sounds really tough for you. Obviously getting a present when you're expecting is maybe a bit cheeksterish, but you should be able to enjoy your pregnancy and to be 5 months pregnant and surrounded by people who "don't want to get their hopes up" sounds horrible. I can understand your DH, but what is up with his family putting that kind of pressure on you? You poor thing

maybe this is a way into a much-needed conversation with DH about the power of positive thinking and the chances that everything will be fine this time around?