Constant worrying 11 + 3 days

[BabyD6]

Hi, this is my first ever post on here so hope it works ok!

I am currently 11+3 days pregnant. I’m 31 and this is the first time I have ever been pregnant.

We found out around 5+3 days and booked a private scan at 7+3 days, where we saw a little tortoise shaped baby with a heartbeat. The sonography confirmed we were around 7+2 days!

I don’t have my NHS 12 week scan until 5th September (feels like ages away!!!). I am just constantly worried that something bad is going to happen. I’m quite wet down there so constantly checking my knickers every 30 minutes to make sure I’m ok and now I’m just so scared of having my 12 week scan and there being nothing there.

My partner is very good and reassuring, but I’m home right now on my own just crying where I am so scared that something will go wrong. I know it’s no good reading forums online sometimes and I have no reason to be so nervous as no health conditions etc, but just can’t be excited until I’ve had my scan.

Not really sure what I’m asking for, just reassurance I guess…..
Anyone else in a similar position?

Can totally relate. Currently 31 weeks and I feel like I've had something to worry about throughout this whole pregnancy. My brain makes problems even when there aren't any! Unfortunately it can be a very anxiety inducing time, especially if you are more on the anxious side naturally.

It's great you saw a good heart beat on your early scan, and I'm confident everything will be fine on your 12 week scan.

What I've learnt is that pregnancy is the biggest version of 'trust the process' ever. You literally have to resign to letting nature do it's thing, and it's really likely to all work out perfectly. However I know that's easier said than done!

Can you speak to your midwife about your anxieties? Honestly sometimes I just have to take one day at a time and then I go through phases where I'm less anxious and it's easier.

@Sagittarius25 Thank you for your reply!
I am normally a very positive person and never really suffer with anxiety, but think where I am now pregnant, I just want every thing to be perfect! But most is out of my control now.

Yes, I definitely already agree with you on the trust the process! All I can do is take my vitamins, eat healthy and get my exercise in every day..

I did try to call in the week to see if I could move my scan a week early but had no answer from the hospital phone, although I may try to give my midwife a call this week. Thank you 🙏🏼

Hi @BabyD6
I totally understand how you're feeling, i'm a very upbeat happy go lucky kind of person usually but since falling pregnant god the anxiety and worry is next level!
I really try and distract myself, i plan what i'm going to do in the day, it could be just something like cooking, it really helps. Congratulations on your pregnancy hun ❤ xx

@Sagittarius25
Love what you wrote, resign to letting nature do it's thing, i'm going to keep remembering this. Congratulations on your pregnancy xx ❤

@Summer2424 Thank you! Yes I’m normally described as a happy go lucky person 😂 But wow, since pregnant I’ve been so anxious! I even had to go to the toilets in the supermarket the other day to check my knickers 🙈

My partner will be home soon so I think we’ll keep ourselves busy and go for a walk and some dinner.. It’s just so hard to stay positive 🤪

Love your comment about cooking! Might get myself back into some baking 🧁 although not sure will be good for my waistline xx

I'm similar boat - 31yrs old, 11+4, always worrying! Just got to keep your mind busy. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? I love baking so made myself some lovely chocolate chip cookies....actually might make some again today now it's in my head! Do you like reading/walking/going to gym? I know it's easier said than done but we can't spend the whole pregnancy miserable and worrying every minute! 💕

Hey!
I’m 20 weeks pregnant today with my 3rd and have been the exact same this whole pregnancy.
I would definitely say it’s normal to worry, I’ve spent this whole pregnancy thinking there’s something wrong as I’m the same having to constantly check/ change underwear because it’s so wet but I have had 2 private scans and my NHS 12 week scan so far and all been absolutely fine!
I know it’s easier said than done but try not to overthink and take your mind of it if you can🤍

I was the same when I was around that far gone so was googling like mad! But I saw on Tommys that once you’ve seen a heartbeat around 7/8 weeks, the chance of mc is really low, about 10%

You're not alone.
The anxiety didn't stop for me until I felt the baby moving daily.
I had 3 private as well as 5 NHS scans by 23 weeks (although most of the extra NHS scans were due to them not being able to do all the checks at 12 and 20 weeks so had those twice).
I'm now 36 weeks and the anxiety has returned to an extent as I'm worrying about the teeny tiny risk of still birth now labour is in sight.
There was nothing I could do to quell the anxiety except forking out for scans early on. I could manage about 2.5-3 weeks before it got too much and I booked a scan. If it's within your financial capacity and the early scan helped it may be an option.
I think you'll struggle to move your NHS scans significantly earlier since they need baby to be a certain size/visibility to do the required checks.

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy! It's wonderful that you've reached out and shared your feelings here. It's completely natural to have concerns and worries, especially during your first pregnancy. Your emotional journey is as important as the physical one. Seeing your little tortoise-shaped baby with a heartbeat is such a beautiful milestone, and it's a strong indication that everything is progressing well. The wait until your 12-week scan can indeed feel like an eternity, but remember that every pregnancy is unique. Feeling anxious is normal, but try to embrace this special time as much as possible. It's great that your partner is being supportive, and it's okay to lean on them during moments of uncertainty. Many expectant parents go through similar feelings, and seeking reassurance is absolutely okay. As for forums and online information, it's wise to be cautious. While they can provide some insights, nothing replaces the advice and guidance of healthcare professionals. Trust in the care you're receiving, and soon enough, that 12-week scan will bring you even more joy and reassurance. You've got this, and your journey ahead will be filled with wonderful moments❤️

I checked for blood every single time I used the bathroom for my whole pregnancy. I was a total bag of nerves despite having a low risk pregnancy and completely textbook delivery. I can only advise - getting a kick counter app once you start to feel the baby moving (I think somewhere around 5 or 6 months). And I personally I also chose to buy a step b test.

@em3392 After I posted this yesterday, I pulled myself together and was out all day which really helped take my mind off things! All these comments made me feel so much better ❤I am going food shopping today so definitely going to get some bits to do some baking! We go for a short 30 minute walk every day.. Counting down now until next Tuesday for our scan! It now doesn’t feel so far away ❤️

@am3017 @Heartbreaktuna Thank you both! I read a forum the other day about knicker checking so we’re definitely not the only ones 😄❤️ Going to look into the app and test you’ve recommended, thank you!

@pinkpirlie Thank you! I wish I had a private scan last week as it’s too late now to get one before my NHS 12 week scan next week! It says to leave 2 weeks between scans? But we have said that we will pay for private scans throughout! Definitely cannot wait so long next time lol.. I’m thinking every 4 weeks but will see how we get on ❤️

@ciakace Wow! Thank you so much! Your message was so lovely and reassuring ❤️ Not sure if it’s hormones but made me emotional haha! Thank you. I’m definitely going to embrace it a little more ❤️

Thank you all ❤️