Broken up with at 20 weeks pregnant

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I don’t really know what I’m looking for here, just some support really.

My boyfriend has broken up with me and I’m so devastated. I have been so upset that I feel guilty as if I’m harming my baby. I don’t really have any friends but I have my lovely mum.

I can’t afford the house I’ve just bought by myself, nor do I have any idea how I will afford being a mum. I’m 25 and on a teachers salary. I don’t really have any one to ask for support and I won’t put on my mum for anything because she doesn’t need the stress, I don’t even want to tell her I’m alone because she will be so upset.

Has anyone else felt like this? I feel like I’ve let my little boy down already

You haven’t let your baby down. Relationships break down but that has nothing to do with your role as a mum. I think you should reach out to your mum if you can, for emotional and practical support. In terms of your housing situation, I would speak to your lender first. There is some advice here too - it depends whether this will be a short or long term problem. Not ideal as you have a baby on the way but there are options like lodgers. Sending a big hug xxx

I'm so sorry, please do speak to your mum, she would want to know x

You're not letting your baby down OP you're 25 have a house and a profession that's all good.
Have you checked what benefits you'd be entitled to as a single parent? Can your mum help with childcare?
When you return to work UC will help with your childcare. R.e. baby clothes etc you can find a lot of second-hand stuff in excellent condition and for a fraction of the price on sites like Vinted

Definitely be fully open with your mum and also on finances for the house, there are options like renting out a room/taking a lodger to help you pay the mortgage. Speaking with Citizen's advice for allowances and money that is available to you as a single person/single mother. In the short term selling used items on Ebay/Vinted for a bit of extra cash. Plus even though this guy is so wrong for leaving you in this situation, it doesn't absolve him of his financial duty to the child - he needs to pay child maintenance at least and can be legally enforced to do so. A lot of this will feel too heavy as you are going through pregnancy, so try to get a trusted person like your mum to help you make sense of what can be done. Good luck x