So I'm currently 10w3 days and baby stopped growing at about 6w2d. I've had no signs or anything, found out on a private scan 2 days ago - we'd only booked it as my partner is working during my NHS one. I'd had an early scan at 6.5weeks where a heartbeat was detected, so was pretty relaxed that baby was measuring a couple of days behind at that point - I ovulate a bit later in my cycle than standard calculators expect. The heart must have stopped a day or two later.
Went to the EPU yesterday where they scanned me again and confirmed the size. I told them my dates, they verbally told me it was a miscarriage but said that they couldn't do anything about it until I have a second NHS scan. So now I have the week to wait even though we know what's going on and I just want the medical management to get it over with. Having had to terminate a pregnancy previously, I know what the medical management is like, and I'd far rather that than the risk of scarring from surgery.
The staff were really kind, but worst of the experience was that there ended up being 5 people including me in the room for my internal ultrasound. A student midwife had asked if she could sit in and I felt too out of body to say no, but then another random visitor whose role wasn't explained just stayed as well, it felt very exposed. With the sonographer and my partner it was an incredibly crowded room.
On top of that, in the waiting room one of the unit staff came in to talk to another patient, who turned out to be her daughter. They stood there jubilating about her early scan right next to a sign asking people to remember that not everyone in the room would be getting good news, and please could they be sensitive to that.
@MamaAl27 I'm along for the ride with you here. Hoping for an easy time for both of us. ❤️