Shouldn't of snooped

[Solly492]

I know some people are gonna say this is my own fault and I very much think the same but nonetheless....I'm currently pregnant 26 weeks to be exact and on Sunday its my birthday(which I don't celebrate) but my partner has been asking what I'd like. I've already said that I'm not intrested but he seems determined to get me something. His sister mentioned rings 😅 now I've never been one to want to get married so this sent a little panick in me and it getting the better of me I decided to stupidly snoop on his phone, now although rings were searched for so was a very recent search (as in yesterday morning) of "I don't/why dont i find my pregnant girlfriend attractive/ sexual attractive" 😑 this hurt I already have huge insecurity about how I look and baby weight especially since I suffered with an eating disorder. Now I feel down and indifferent to him...SHIT !!

Have you even read my comment? Look at those first few words...'You don't want to marry.'

Honestly, you sound about 15. This is nonsense.

My ex DP really didn't find me attractive pregnant - it wasn't actually an attraction thing, he was actually creeped out by the thought of a baby in there, feeling it move etc.

He went back to finding me extremely attractive immediately after birth

Why on earth are you implying that is an issue though? A couple doesn't need to be married.

I think you're over thinking this a bit, which is to be expected. When I'm pregnant I gain a load of weight, become a gas machine and have a permanent attitude. I would pretty much hands down assume that during pregnancy alot of partners aren't as attracted as they were prior! This doesn't mean they were never attracted or won't be attracted again. Park that up until you're about 1 year postpartum...

Fabulous. I'll look 15 too, thanks.
I provided a summary of the situation and a solution. Perfectly fine.

Oh go away.

My dp didn't find me attractive when visibly pregnant either. It didn't bother me, I wasn't interested then either. And he made it clear it was just the baby being in there both times.

Don't be ridiculous.

@StopStartStop then don't be so rude. You obviously said what you said to get a reaction. Several people have replied to you accordingly. Well done.

Do I come after you? No. You and your 'several people' with you make no impression on me at all.

Are you sure he definitely searched it? It could have been one of those where you start typing something then Google has all these other things in the auto complete then out of sheer curiosity and nosiness you click on them to read! I've done that loads of times I've been searching for one thing then randomly clicked on all the auto complete suggestions just to see what the a answers were!

I’m pretty shocked by how irresponsible this post is. There’s nothing in the OP to justify this reaction. This is someone’s real life.

@StopStartStop clearly I have as you're replying 🤭

Oh, don't be so silly.

You don't want to marry. .I've never been one to want to get married
He doesn't fancy you. why dont i find my pregnant girlfriend attractive
Kick him out. Why wallow in the pain? Let him go. - Good advice from me
As for going through his phone - get it again and have a proper look. I decided to stupidly snoop on his phone, Why be shy about this? Sometimes you need to know.
Or don't bother, as you need to get rid of him anyway. 26 weeks gone, not married and doesn't want to be, boyfriend no longer fancies her, she doesn't trust him (see phone snooping). Best plan, get rid, go solo.

And a bunch of people want to whinge about that? Bullying me, are you? Pfft.

Nothing good comes out of Pandoras box...

I’m genuinely sorry for whatever you have experienced in your own life that has led to such cynical projections from you.

I think it will come as news to many pregnant women that they should ditch their partners if they are committed to their relationship but don’t want marriage. You should probably put out some kind of PSA.

And sure, maybe I and others who have challenged your post are bullying you. Equally, maybe you have got this one wrong.

The open phone isn't a policy by all means its a preference that we both like.

I had a partner who struggled with the same thing. He only admitted it much later, long after our DD was born. Lucky for him. I needed a cervical stitch and then was so paranoid about losing the baby, I didn't know any sex at all. It wasn't my body that was turning him off, he'd have loved me at 300lbs. It was just something about there being a baby inside of me that made his brain go funny. He was a wonderful supportive man who only wanted the best life in the world for me and was nothing but devoted. We broke up much later for unrelated reasons (lost our DD at 3 and bother struggled to recover). I'd give your partner the benefit of the doubt if I were in your shoes.

*didn't want. Not didn't know 🤦🏻‍♀️

To be honest, I google weird stuff all the time just to get peoples views on things. I google the most obscure crap I can think of to find out a little bit of drama from other peoples situations. It's so meaningless. Have you ever thought in your head you just don't fancy him one day? Well if your dh is anything like me I would just google that for the hell of it to see what people say on forums. I wouldn't worry

This sounds tough to read but honestly I don't think this is bad. I know some men fancy pregnant women but I totally understand if men don't find it attractive.
I definitely don't think I look attractive/sexy when pregnant or feel sexy. I feel huge, swollen and cumbersome literally with another human growing inside me. I actually find it more weird when men have a fetish about it.