Unplanned pregnancy (late 40s and thought those days were gone), and about 7 weeks pregnant. I spoke with GP about 3 weeks ago to discuss concerns we had about some specific health issues I have and the potential impact of pregnancy on me and our family. I have an amazing husband and happy home life with 2 of 3 kids still at home (19 & 15).
Long story short, GP suggested that while husband and I were debating the pros and cons of pregnancy that it might be worth self referring to local NHS termination service as there can be a bit of a wait, and it would be easier to cancel the appointment at short notice rather than get one at short notice. Bit random, but there you go. I self referred that day and the appointment was made, and there is a wait of about 3 weeks. Apparently they only run a clinic one afternoon a week.
However, towards the end of last week I was having some brown spotting first thing in the morning and some discomfort. On Saturday night I started having severe cramping in lower abdomen and ended up having a really rough night. Yesterday morning, I was passing fresh blood. No clots, just blood. There was nothing afterwards until mid afternoon and started bleeding, again with no clots but maybe some stringy bits. It’s very intermittent. Still very uncomfortable, abdominal and lower back pains and this morning I was feeling really sick, shivery and sore.
My GP made an emergency referral to gynae ward this morning and I attended. The Dr there thinks I’m either miscarrying, or potentially having an ectopic pregnancy. The only way to know for sure would be to scan me, but they wouldn’t be able to do that until Wednesday of this week. The termination service appointment is tomorrow so I’ve to go to that and be scanned there and then if gynae need to be involved (assuming so if ectopic) then they will.
I’m exhausted, I’m in pain, I feel like utter shit and generally feel a bit lost. It’s almost like I don’t really seem to be under the care of anyone. Even the gynae Dr today didn’t seem to know what to do with me, but did say that if things go downhill tonight to go back to gynae ward, then changed his mind and said to phone NHS 24, but then said that delays are common so just go to A&E if need be.
Is this normal? I’ve never been pregnant before so I have no reference point. I don’t actually even know if I am officially still pregnant.