"Long distance" parenting?

[MancBizMum]

Not sure if this is the right place for this, I’m new here so apologies if not!

Long story as short as possible…partner and I are in a long distance relationship, I live in England, he lives in Europe. We met when I went on a trip over there and despite a lot of “long distance doesn’t work, it’s too difficult, let’s not keep in touch” etc…we did…and here we are a few years later despite best efforts 🙄

We see each other every 6-8 weeks ish and as you can probably guess given where I’m posting this…recently found out I’m pregnant.

And now I’m stuck, I don’t know what to do for the best and as strange as the situation might be, I can’t believe we’re the only ones to ever find ourselves here! Obviously we’ll discuss it properly and make a decision etc but I’d be interested to hear opinions from others or hear stories of people who’ve been here before. We’re yet to sit down and have the big conversation, it’s all very new, I’d like as much info/advice as possible going in.

I'm definitely keeping the baby, that was barely even a decision to be honest, so as I see it, there are three options:

1. He moves here
2. I move there
3. We keep things as they are but with an added baby attached to me! (My personal favourite but I worry it makes me seem selfish)

There are so many things to consider, I started writing a list but deleted it because the post was SO long, so instead, I’ll just ask, has anyone been here before? Does anyone have any advice they’d like to share on making the decision?

Thanks!

currently in this position myself, and asking the same questions. I want nothing more than to move closer to babys dad who is 130 miles away and hasn't been able to see his son for nearly 2 months now, who is now nearly 5 months old. But, I have 3 children with my ex tying me where I am now.

I hope you come to a decision that works for you

Hi. I’m in a very similar situation. I got married in 2022, hubby lives in Asia and I’m in the UK. I was supposed to move a year after getting married but hubby decided to visit me before I moved and I found out I was pregnant. We decided that it’s best for me to continue my pregnancy in the UK as I have my family here. He went back home when I was 6 weeks pregnant and came back when I was 6 months pregnant. I spent most of my pregnancy alone - it was extremely difficult for me especially because I had a high risk pregnancy. My baby is now 6 months and my husband last saw her when she was 8 weeks. I feel guilty for keeping my husband and baby apart as he has missed out on a lot. We have now decided that it’s time for me to move to keep our family together. I'll miss the UK as this is home for me.