Fallen out of love in pregnancy or hormones???

[Anonymousmuma]

Hello,

im desperately hoping someone has some advice... I'm 11 weeks pregnant but i feel like I've fallen out of love with my partner since I became pregnant.. we were trying to get pregnant for a year.. as soon as I got pregnant and started feeling so I'll I went completely off him... now I can't stand to be near him let alone him touch me.... i feel so so awful and guilty for him as it must be awful for him... I don't know if it's hormones or not???

I'm so freaked out as I now feel completely suffocated by him and the thought of having a baby with him.....I know how awful this sounds.. I just don't know what to do... I definitely feel much moodier than normal and don't find joy in much at the moment as just feeling so sick all the time and raking care of my 4 year old is hardcore as he's constantly attacking me... just wondered if anyone else went through this with their partner and then things turned out to be fine????

My DH was away for work at the beginning of my pregnancy. Usually I didn’t like to be on my own but at that stage I found it extremely liberating. I had morning sickness and was tired and worried so hadn’t got much headspace for someone else.

Trust me it's totally normal!

Just wait until the baby arrives...if you think you hate him now it's nothing compared to the post birth hate 😂😂

Oh really??? Oh thankyou so much that is so reassuring... it's been making me so so anxious

I hate my partner every time I'm pregnant and it feels awful 😅🤣 its the hormone!

Totally normal.

Oh thankyou thankyou! Xx

Just wait until the baby arrives...if you think you hate him now it's nothing compared to the post birth hate 😂😂

Yup!

I went off DH and had a mad crush on a doctor I worked with when I was pregnant with my first. I told one of my work friends "if only I weren't pregnant"... she pointed out that even so, I was still married 😂

DH and I still going strong 8 years and 2 children later!

😂🙏🙏🙏❤️

I hated my partner in my first trimester. So much so that I almost told him to leave. Then by the second trimester I loved him again. Don't worry, it is completely normal!

It's normal don't worry OP. I felt like this earlier in my pregnancy and i'm having a girl, pretty much through to end of second trimester it lasted. Was the total opposite experience when i was expecting a boy. I wonder how postpartum will be

I’m 6 months pregnant and it’s like all my PMS hormones which make me want to fall out with him are just playing non stop now. My brains created a negative narrative for him, that he’s X,Y,Z and before I was pregnant I’d only get this a few days a month.

Totally normal, it happened to me in two of my pregnancies

Thankyou so much everyone.. hormones are such weird things!! And Glitter Dragon yes that's exactly how I feel - X,Y and Z... I hope it starts feeling better for you soon! Xxxx

Omg totally Normal and common from speaking to other women!!!

I absolutely hated being touched by my partner during my first pregnancy and currently the same in my second, I feel awful but I know it's temporary as I was fine after my hormones calmed down after birth and fancied/loved him again!😂

Hormonea. Totally normal.

Look at animals - no other species expects pregnant females to want sex, it’s totally unnatural.

38 weeks here and it's been on and off like this the whole time. First 12 weeks he was the most annoying person second trimester I couldn't get enough of him back to him being annoying now. Well everyone is annoying now 🤣.

@Anonymousmuma
I say X, Y and Z because it really isn’t the catastrophic issue I think it is at the time. It’s completely interchangeable depending on what’s happened that day / week. The reasons I’m simmering with rage are immaterial, because my brain is pinning this rage on whatever reasons are available at the time 🤣
Also completely killed my sex drive dead for the first time since I can remember. Body is making better use of my hormones now I guess.

Omg yes I have the same with things being cataclysmic! I'm sending you all positive vibes and hope you all feel better soon. I'm on holiday with 15 family members and it's stressing me out sooo much having so many people around all the time!