Reassure me please, early scan didn’t go as expected.

[Josmae]

Hey I am just coming on here for some reassurance/someone to chat to as I’m feeling really disheartened and upset.
So for context this pregnancy was unplanned, came as quite a shock but me and my partner are really happy and excited. I did a clearblue test on august 2nd, it said i was 2-3 weeks. I booked an early scan for today which would be 6 weeks 4 days, not based on LMP because I’m very irregular. The scan went horribly, they cant find an embryo and I’m measuring at 5 weeks 6 days. There is a visible yolk sac and gestational sac. They told me that I’ve either gotten my dates wrong or the pregnancy has stopped developing. My dates can’t be wrong, if i was only 5 weeks and 6 days it means i would’ve had a positive clearblue 2-3 weeks test at 10DPO, which seems impossible, unless i have crazy high HCG levels. They’ve told me to come back in 2 weeks, but I’ve got my booking appointment on Tuesday so im going to see if i can get a scan with the NHS. Is there any way that the pregnancy is developing okay and it’s just a little slow? Or should i start preparing for the worst? I haven’t had any bleeding or any cramps, just some nausea, sore boobs, a uti, all the common symptoms really.
sorry for the waffling, I’m just really concerned and i need some reassurance.
thank you x

It’s hard but keep hope and try and not get stressed over details, at early stage it’s really hard to know exact weeks/days. I never used those clearblue tests as I’ve read they’ve unreliable. You can’t change anything so wait it out. I had a recent loss at 11 weeks and it made me glad I’d never had a scan as it didn’t feel real anyway, I do think the early scans have pros and cons.

OP, gently, stop putting so much stock in the CB. I was very certain about how far I was, had early scan due to previous ectopic and had exactly the same scan outcome as you. 2 weeks later baby was measuring according to my dates and had a heartbeat. They don’t grow exactly the same or to a formula. He was a big 10lber!

Hey op hope you’re doing well. I am currently in the same position as you. I went for my 7 week scan on 11th august with an NHS consultant who told me everything looked consistent with 5 weeks - still no fetal pole / heartbeat which worried me. I’m currently half way through the two week wait of the follow up scan. I spend hours a day searching the internet for success stories and I’m trying to stay positive but I also feel like I’ve disconnected myself from this pregnancy until I know for sure. Not knowing is the worst. The only thing giving me hope is that my symptoms are getting so much worse and I’m vomiting about 3-5 times a day. But I know this can happen with a MMC too. I will be thinking of you and hope all goes well. Keep us updated and sending lots of positive vibes.

@Ceebeebee87 hey thank you for your reply, i hope you're doing well. It's a really horrid situation to be in and it's even worse that we are just expected to make it through the 2 weeks without driving ourselves mad! All i can say is have a read through some of the replies on this thread as I've found it so reassuring to hear others success stories. Keep me updated with how it goes next week, I'll be thinking of you x

The first 12 weeks is a really hard period because of the wait... and also (most of us) don't share the news to anyone because is 'too early to tell' ... is really a stressful period that no one talks about much

I think the best thing to do is finding ways to keep your mind calm and having a supportive partner or friend to share.... as there is nothing you can do to change things

even if they find a heartbeat at 7 or 8 weeks, the miscarriage risk is still higher than after the 3 months mark...
(I had a second misscarriage at 10 weeks, baby heart just stopped)

I remember I booked a scan every 10 days after for the first 12 weeks with my current pregnancy because I was going crazy, my poor husband had to deal with my crazyness...

Hoping everything goes well for you!!

My sister had an early scan, and she was told by her then-obs/gyn that she had a blighted ovum, and that they recommended an immediate termination. She refused and went for a second opinion. My niece is now 14 years old.

That's very unusual. Was this in the UK? Most places insist on a week or two wait between scans. In fact I almost needed to have 4 scans before they'd do anything. I had one private scan that showed much smaller than expected embryo with no heartbeat. (Should have been 7 weeks and was measuring 5) Told to return in 2 weeks. Did that and still the same. Called local EPU. They did a scan which was 6 days after the second private one. But they didn't want to accept the private ones (even though I had printed images and reports from the private place) and wanted me to come back in 2 more weeks for yet another scan! I did manage to convince them it was pointless and I was booked in for surgical management 5 days after that. So I had my surgical management nearly 6 weeks after it had stopped growing. But if they'd have done that second EPU scan it would have been 8 weeks.

Just to update you all, today I've noticed a brownish pink discharge, it's very light and it's pretty much disappeared now (touch wood) but after the scan the other day I've been left feeling so so worried. I've been reading stories from women on here in similar situations and it's seemed to terrify me even more. I really don't want to lose this baby. Is there any hope left? I'm going to ring the doctors later and see what they suggest

If I remember correctly the CB weeks test measure from conception, so if you were 10dpo and got 2-3 weeks it's really not massively far out, 2 weeks would be 14dpo. But those tests are a guide rather than a rule anyway. I went from 1-2 to 3+ in the space of 2 days (and knew I wasn't 3+ as DH works away a lot so I knew the date of conception).

Dates can move around so early when they're that small, being just a few mm out on the measurements can change the date a lot.

I've had a few private scans and they've all been fine, but I have known with certainty that I am at least 6 weeks. The trouble is when you think you're 6+weeks and then go and you're not due to long cycles and it then causes worry. I wouldn't let this put you off going for another private scan if you wanted to.

Just seen this update. Brown blood is old so could just be implantation bleeding. My miscarriage was very heavy and bright red from the get go but everyone is different. Doctors won't suggest anything other than pain relief if you're having cramps and resting, unfortunately if the worst is happening there is nothing you or they can do. I was sent to EPU by my doctor for my miscarriage but I was bleeding heavily, on my own with my toddler as DH was away and they wanted to rule out ectopic.

I know it is easier said than done but try not to worry. This part of pregnancy is crap because there really is nothing you can do but hope and wait. At worst you could order some cheap tests and do one every few days, it helped ease my anxiety slightly seeing the positive line each morning.

No, not the UK. South Africa; private hospital. Things are often done very differently there.

Try not to worry about a little bit of brown staining.
I have had it many times and the babies were fine.
Your doctor will not be able to do anything so there's no point contacting them.

I had that and it was fine, realistically your GP won’t really be able to do anything but they might refer you to EPAU for a scan

Hi @Josmae how are you getting on? I hope you haven't had any more bleeding.

@TheShellBeach I'm doing okay thank you for asking! Bleeding has stopped now. had some pains with the bleeding so i got a referral to the EPAU. They did a scan and dated me 6 weeks, we saw a fetal pole of 3.9mm but no heartbeat and was told to come back on Thursday for a follow up to check babies growing and hopefully see the heartbeat. It's been a very hard wait and i cant wait for Thursday!!! Trying not to panic too much and am just hoping that i somehow got my dates way wrong!!

It's such a minefield of worry, isn't it.
I was wondering if your CBD was really inaccurate, or if you were only just over the two weeks when you tested with it?

Even so, I have heard about lots of inaccurate dating from CBDs. At least you've seen a fetal pole - at 6 weeks it is harder to see a heartbeat - let's hope your next scan has one.

@TheShellBeach yes it's so worrying. It's like something new to worry about everyday!!! I've been over analysing every symptom i feel and don't feel it's driving me mad!
I'm hoping that my clearblue test was inaccurate, but i don't see many people saying that they ever got 2-3 weeks only 8-10DPO. But maybe I'm the first lol. I'm glad we saw a fetal pole this time, and we saw some gestational sac and yolk sac growth. Which is better than the first scan i suppose.
It's very scary though, thursday honestly cant come fast enough.

I'll be thinking about you!
I remember ( a few years ago now) waiting to see a heartbeat on a scan.

I'd already had two miscarriages and when I saw the heartbeat in the third pregnancy I was so thrilled.

Hi @Josmae I posted a while back as I was a similar situation to you. I had an early scan which didn’t pick up a heartbeat and I also experienced a bleed earlier this week. Just wanted to let you know I finally had my scan today after a very long two weeks and they saw a baby and heartbeat. We were completely shocked in the best possible way. She said I most likely ovulated late as I’m measuring at 7+2 and according to my period I should be 8+6. The bleeding was caused by some bruising left from implantation. Just wanted to give you some hope. The wait is awful and I already feel physically much better knowing what’s going on. I hope Thursday comes around quickly and you get the best news ❤️

@Ceebeebee87 i recognise your @ so i think I've probably came across your post in the many many hours I've spent on this website haha.
That's amazing!!! I'm so so thrilled for you! You must feel so relieved. I've heard it so common for dates to be pushed back in early pregnancy and it usually catches up by the 12 week scan but most people don't even notice this because they don't go for early scans. I'm hoping that i have the same outcome as you did today. I'll write a post on this thread when i find out on Thursday x

Hey everyone just thought I'd update this thread just incase anyone is wondering/stumbles upon it in the future.
I've unfortunately been told today that I'm having a miscarriage. I had some bright red bleeding which started a few days ago so I had a scan today which showed the sac sitting very low in my cervix.
Thank you all for your lovely words and reassurance before.
I hope you get a nicer ending to your stories than i get❤️
Thank you for being such a lovely community x

I'm very sorry to read your update, @Josmae

So sorry to read this sad news @Josmae. Sending you lots of love and strength x

@Ceebeebee87 thank you so much lovely❤️ wishing you a very safe and uneventful rest of your pregnancy x