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Regretting second pregnancy

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Kilminchy123 · 17/08/2023 14:26

Please don’t judge. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and full to the neck of fear. I’m 13 weeks pregnant and currently have a 19 month old. We fell pregnant easily after a miscarriage and I was so so longing for this baby and thrilled to say the least. However the last 2 weeks I have become absolutely overwhelmed with guilt and feel like I am grieving. I honestly feel so down that it’s almost as if my DS is going to disappear when baby comes (dramatic I know but it’s a very real feeling to me) I feel I am mourning our relationship and feel like everything will completely change for us (we are very close he is my little shadow). I feel so upset that I didn’t think this true fully and wish we gave him another year on his own. I thought we were doing the right thing to give him a little friend but now am second guessing, obviously my pregnancy will continue regardless but can someone please reassure me. In desperate need of a hand hold. The feelings are so overwhelming it’s affecting my everyday life and feel I genuinely need to speak to a professional. Please don’t judge I know this can sound very dramatic ☹️☹️☹️☹️

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oakleaffy · 17/08/2023 15:01

So sorry you are feeling this way- Your existing son will adapt - Hope whatever you decide it works out for you.

I do understand why you are panicking .

It’s your choice - But you might just be having a wobble.

Best of luck. :)

oakleaffy · 17/08/2023 15:03

Being the oldest and being usurped is a shock for many first children- ( Ask any eldest children 😂) but they cope👍

JSP21 · 17/08/2023 15:12

I had the exact same feelings about the same time as you. I really felt a lot of guilt. I mourned the relationship I thought I was ruining and worried about how this would all affect our son.

I’m now 24 weeks with a 21 month old and I feel completely different. We’ve had to adapt as my husband has had to take in more of the physical jobs but it’s been wonderful watching their relationship grow as a result and there no less love between me and my son. I can now focus on the positives it’ll bring. I’m sure this will happen for you too :)

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