Bullying myself - 27 weeks

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Just want to see if anyone has any advice or for someone to tell me what I’m feeling is normal.

Im 27 weeks with my second child (ds 15 and due a little girl). And I’m feeling terrible about myself. I’m beating myself up feeling ashamed and embarrassed.

I have large boobs anyway, but they’ve definitely gone up a cup size and I think they’re making me feel (look?!😞) bigger than what I am. I feel like I look so dark around my eyes. I’m very proud of my long hair but I feel like it’s gone dry and snapping and flyaway.

Im not eating terribly, im trying to be very sensible as I don’t want lots of weight to lose, but if I do have a little treat, I dwell on it all day and try and cut calories elsewhere. (I’m making sure I have enough nutrients and calories for baby, I just mean I try not to over indulge).

Ive been told I’m ‘all baby’ and I don’t think I’ve put a lot of weigh on, apart from my boobs. My clothes still fit and when I go to hospital apps and get talking to other mums, my bump seems nester and smaller. So why a I feeling so huge?l and hideous?

I feel awful because I know my body is nourishing my baby, keeping her safe and helping her grow. Im a very spiritual person and I know pregnancy is a magical time and I should be proud of my body. But I’m bullying myself with my thoughts.

My partner and son are the sweetest, most supportive people and always tell me I’m beautiful, but I think it’s getting hard for them too to hear how I speak about myself.

Does anyone have any advice? Is feeling this way normal? Anything I can do to make myself feel better? I walk and swim quite a bit, not as often as I like as I work full time and get a little tired at the end of the day.

Sorry for any typos.

Sorry you’re feeling this way, pregnancy can come with so many body changes (positive and negative) that it can be a difficult adjustment. I think that you need to raise this with your midwife or gp as to how you’re feeling as you shouldn’t be going through this without the proper support (I don’t mean anything negative to your family, I’m sure they’re very supportive, I mean elsewhere support)

I’d say feeling this way is common but not normal, you shouldn’t need to control and worry over what you’re eating if it’s within moderation, you shouldn’t need to over stretch yourself with exercise.

Try not to beat yourself up about the way you’re feeling, your feelings are valid but I do think that you would benefit from raising your concerns with people who can help
you get through this period of massive change 💜

Sending you love x

Do you have good maternity clothes? I'm 27 weeks pregnant also and like you, I'm all bump and boobs now. I don't love how big my breasts have gotten but having nice fitted maternity clothes makes a massive difference.