Pregnant following a miscarriage

[summerfruit28]

Hi all. I had a missed miscarriage back in January. I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant and so paranoid the same will happen. As my
miscarriage was a missed one, there was no signs or bleeding or pain, I just went for a scan to be told development had stopped sometime around 7 weeks. I ended up having to have a D&C 4 weeks later as my body didn’t register the loss and miscarry by itself. I had my 12 week scan two weeks ago and don’t think I can wait until 20 weeks to make sure all is ok. The trouble is I’ve got two seaside holidays happening in the next few weeks with my partner and kids. Finding out I’d miscarried before these would be awful and ruin what should be a happy break for us all. However I also would love the peace of mind of knowing all was well before my 16 weeks midwife check in September. What do I do? Brave it and have the scan before we go away on Monday? And risk finding out something awful before we go away? Or wait til we’re home and just sit on pins for the next 3 weeks? Has anyone else had a similar experience? I hate that it’s too early to feel movement and also there is no bump although I can feel a slight protrudence first thing in the morning laid on my back. I just wish wish there was some way of “just knowing” all is ok without the stress of scans.

sorry for the ramble.

xx

I'm so sorry about the miscarriage. But this is the time to think in numbers and statistics. The chance of miscarriage at 7 weeks is significantly higher than 14 weeks. After the first trimester the chance of miscarriage is very, very small. There is a website called datayze and it has a good miscarriage probability calculator. Put your information in that so you can reassure yourself.

I understand how you feel, I had a missed miscarriage last January at 17 weeks. We went o a private scan hoping to find out if we were having a boy or a girl to be told there was no heartbeat. Like you I had no pain or bleeding. We were devastated after 6 round of IVF we thought we had our miracle.

I am currently 12 weeks pregnant now after another round of IVF and have my scan tomorrow. I had a scan at 7 weeks 4 days at the clinic and a private one at 10 weeks 3 days. As soon as I come out the scan the worry creeps back in.

If you think a scan would help put your mind at rest then go for it. As previous poster said the statistics are in your favour. Plus its another chance to see your wee baby.

I’m so sorry you went through it at 17 weeks, what an awful time. The wait between 12 and 20 weeks seems forever especially if you’ve you’ve had the experience of a missed miscarriage. I hate that everything can just stop and I’d have no idea again until the next scan. I also know that a few days after the scan I’ll be back to worrying again, like you. I’m crossing everything that you have a happy ending ☺️