Still anxious after a great 12 week scan.. help?!

[EllieJade95]

Hey everyone,

I had my 12 week scan last Wednesday when I was bang on 12 weeks. I opted out of the downs test last minute as I just felt like it would increase my anxiety if I was told there was a higher risk & it wouldn’t change the outcome for me anyway. The sonographer told me everything looked fine & growing as it should - no problems.. but I still can’t help but feel so anxious!

I had a missed miscarriage in May & I think that’s the stem of my anxiety because I know something could be wrong without knowing as it was previously (even though I was much earlier on, around 5 weeks) but that’s why I think the anxiety is bad as I can’t say “until I have bleeding or pain”. I also have a subchronic hematoma which is quite large but trying to remain positive as I am taking progesterone which seems to touch wood have helped. I also have an appointment with a consultant tomorrow to see if they want to keep a closer eye on me.

I have booked a private scan for Friday when I’d be 13 weeks and 3 days but part of me is thinking to cancel - it’s the whole “when do I say no more”. I know it would be rare for something to happen after a good 12 week scan but I focus on that tiny percentage. Anyone had a similar situation and anything that helped? I think I’m also nervous as we tell all my partners friends and family on Friday so I know a lot more people will know now!

Congratulations. If it helps the odds of anything going wrong now have reduced significantly. I know that’s not that helpful for you but it’s a positive.

I had a mmc in April 2022, then conceived again in August 2022 so I can relate. That anxiety remained for me until after the 20 week scan. I tried to look to the next appointment as a mini goal, so 16 week appointment, then 20 week scan. It helped to aim for the next milestone (appointment/nhs scan). Then I started to be a bit more positive as I began to feel consistent movement in the evenings around 22/23 weeks. I had a successful pregnancy and currently have a 4 month old ds.

Hi

I have a daughter, had x2 early losses and currently 13 weeks pregnant. I’ve had bleeding this pregnancy which I never had with my daughter but how both my losses started so I completely get how you’re feeling and how anxious you are. I have found going for scans have made me feel some what better and just focusing on getting to the next scan/milestone. I’m trying hard to just concentrate on getting to the stage where I can feel baby move and I think that will just ease my mind completely, I no no this might not be a massive help but if scans can get u through the next few weeks till you feel baby it might also help

sending love though as I know how tough it is 🫶🏼