Is it normal to almost feel regret when pregnant with second?

[August21yellowbaby]

Feel really awful writing this, I'm pregnant with my second, been trying for a long time. My son has just turned 2.
I don't know if it's cause I feel so sick and tired, but the guilt is eating me alive. I feel like I already miss just being with my son, I feel like I'm scared he will feel pushed out, I'm scared he won't like sharing me.
Just feel so so emotional 😢 scared of getting into that dark place I got into when my first didn't sleep, just generally feeling terrified 😞
Is this a normal feeling when having another baby? I didn't feel like this with first pregnancy, but I guess I had no reason to have all this worry and guilt 😞

Positive stories with 2 and a 1/2 year age gaps or similar would be really reassuring ❤️

Hello 100 percent normal yes ! I felt exactly the same. Mine are now both adults and I remember the feeling well !

Yes! Absolutely. Mine is smaller age gap. But same feelings, like PP. The feeling goes once you are actually living it and your find your own way. Don't worry.

It is because something you love - the set up with your family currently - is changing. We grieve a bit even when changes are positive.
Also because you care about your first child and hand on heart you can't guarantee how it will be after the baby comes.

Respect the feelings. They will evolve.

You have the capacity to love however many children you will have. You are doing a natural thing, having a baby. There is no perfect number - having none, or one, or two, or three, or four, or more - all are equally valid family shapes.

Oh should also add the age gap for mine was 2 years and the bonuses are

go through similar stages together

school drop off ect work well / both in same place same time mostly

your ‘ in the loop ‘ as schools haven’t moved on / parenting styles moved on if you wait longer

family holidays work well

not so positives , they will argue, you will be shattered…( and sure there’s positives to having large gaps too) BUT

your are giving child a family for life …. One day we may not be around, but hopefully a sibling will mean a bond to a family.
you will also be giving your child company , opportunities to learn from each other and if they do get on.. by ages 7 and 5 ish you may get some peace as they entertain each other

best of luck

100% felt like this, used to cry about it, felt I didn't want to share the love I had for him.

100% disappeared as soon as second was born. The love multiplies 😆

Totally normal! I remember going into my eldest room the night before I was induced with my second child and just crying as I felt so guilty! You'll be fine honestly, it's just the change that is scary

Oh some of these stories are making me tear up ! The love we have for all our babies and the thoughts we constantly have for them is quite unbelievable sometimes !