November 2023 babies - Thread 5

[Shaker21]

I couldn't find a new thread open as the old is now full.

Got a few of the usernames to tag, definitely missed people but hopefully they find the thread :)

@spareincoming @Pinkplantcase @leeanneD11 @LilmissCa @FlyingHighFlyingLow @Psqueak87 @spanglesj @BabyBabyBaby123 @Houseonthehills @GreenAventurine @reememberly @Cegbee @DollyGx @38andtrying @JD90 @travellingislife @mldn @sb86 @TMI2000

@WhyIsTheDogBlue 😱 gosh I've not been told that, in fact I feel like all the different doctors I saw minus my consultant really played the fibroid down throughout the pregnancy, a number of them said it's not a big deal, vaginal birth will be fine.

Do you know where your fibroid is? I've been told mine is an intramural/subseral fibroid on the posterior wall.

@JoyApple mine is low right lateral, intramural and is partially blocking cervix.

Ugh bad start to the week! Still no c-section date phone call and no answer from the consultants secretary.

Plus I’ve just been to see the community midwife; except it wasn’t my usual one, it was one I’ve encountered before who doesn’t seem to believe in following consultants guidance or formula feeding, so she’s lectured me about how I’m having a section for all the wrong reasons, how I should be at least attempting breast feeding and that all growth scans are inaccurate so ignore the low percentiles issue as it’s unlikely to be true.

Previous DC she scolded me in the corridor of the hospital about not breast feeding and told me not to be so ridiculous when I said I can’t because of the medication I take. The stuff that keeps me alive…

She can fuck off to fuck frankly.

Apologies for the rant, I’ve come home really cross and now I want to cry!

@Spareincoming ffs! Angry for you! She sounds like a right twat and I wouldn’t listen to a word she says. Makes you wonder sometimes why people are in professions like midwifery when that’s how they go about! Sorry you’re feeling down but know you’re not doing anything wrong. Fingers crossed you get your c-section date soon🤞🏼 I think you should go and have cake or a nice treat now ☺️

@Spareincoming hope your ok, your not doing anything wrong at all. I don’t understand some of these doctors and midwives. They’ve no bedside manner whatsoever and it’s unfair when they are dealing with women who are going through something which quite frankly takes it’s toll both mental and physically.

Im with you today on the angry front, I’ve such an upsetting experience this morning. Moved consultant as the last one didn’t tell me when there was findings etc. and refused to give me any section dates until the time it was happening. Seen a Registrar today from my new consultants team and from the moment I started talking she just started to berate me about wanting a section before 39 weeks, accused me of wanting my baby to have brain damage etc. said if they do section or induce before 39 weeks they have to give me steroids as baby’s lungs aren’t ready before 39 weeks and so why would I want that. I got so upset as I’ve never once said I want baby to come before 39 weeks, only that I want to know a date and be clear on a plan as I come in every day for monitoring and scans but no one will tell me what the plans is, I get told 37 weeks, then 38 weeks, then 36 weeks, then 39 weeks. I don’t care when it is, just give me some idea of a plan! I got so upset and she then refused to talk to me, continued to talk about me to my mum as if I wasn’t there, I just had to walk out and leave them.

I spoke with a Midwife whilst in floods of tears and she very kindly spoke to my actual consultant who has said she sees no reason why I can’t be given a date, if knowing the date makes me feel better, that’s what they will do. So I’m back on Friday to see her for the date.

Meanwhile the registrar has written in my notes that I was upset and angry and very rude and walked out. No mention of how rude and accusing she was, she didn’t even know my birth plan, she started talking about induction! She then said my mum apologised for my behaviour after I left, which she is now upset about because she said that’s the last thing she did, she kindly pointed out where she had misunderstood where I was coming from and how difficult and emotional this pregnancy has been for me so coming across curt and accusing wasn’t the way to communicate with me! Reading that on my notes has set me off into an emotional spin again because now it looks like not only do I not care about the well-being of my baby, but I’m some rude angry person which I’m so far from! I’ve been so patient throughout everything, it just got too much today.

so I’m now laid in bed with my pjs and fluffy socks and a cup of tea, dreading showing my face in the hospital when I’m back for tomorrows monitoring 🙈

@Spareincoming what a knob - agree with @DollyGx about treating yourself this afternoon.

I have a scan this afternoon and more bloods. I had my son at this gestation after a routine (for me) app, so feeling very jittery. Very itchy, nauseous and I’m hoping it’s just nerves. Want to hold off only two weeks more.

Re section date, I’m having slightly the same issue. I want baby at 37 weeks, there’s a risk of still born with my condition but two different consultants are saying different things. Both are amazing, but they are looking at things from different angles and it’s making it very confusing. I’ve been told by the consultant who wants to wait as long as poss that I’ll have my date Friday. But who knows.
I’ve had my steroid injections. I want baby here as soon as it’s safe.

@DollyGx alas no cake as I’ve got gestational diabetes, I have a had a bloody lovely prawn salad in a cafe with a friend though, so that’s perked the day up!

@WriMum22 What a horrid experience! I’d be livid , it doesn’t seem like a professional approach at all!
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a date; originally I had one given at 12 weeks but unfortunately as things have progressed my consultant has had to retract that as it’s a week by week judgement at the moment.

@GreenAventurine sounds familiar that consultants are differing in their opinions so vastly; mine are the same and I have similar risk outcomes to you. I’m back at the hospital on Wednesday for the next growth scan and appointment so hopefully a decision will be made then. I’m still hopeful for the week of the 23rd, that feels just about enough for me.

@WriMum22 Im really struggling today, I’ve been an emotional wreck all day since the appointment. Just keep relaying what she’s written in my notes about me being rude. I feel like they are accusing me of not caring about the health of my baby and thinking I want her here now at 35 weeks when that’s not the case at all. I can’t stop crying about it to be honest, which I think in part is down to hormones too. I also don’t like the fact that after I said I wanted to speak to another doctor and walked out of the room, the Registrar continued to talk about me and my care to my mum without me there and without my consent. She even wrote in my notes ‘relayed care plan to Chloe’s Mother who assured me she will pass on to Chloe’. It just makes me feel like a no one in all of this, when I’m the one carrying and growing this little baby. My husband is furious and is adamant we should complain, but I’m just scared they will think I’m awkward and treat me differently and in reality what do you gain from complaining. I won’t be seeing her again so is there even any point.

@WriMum22 I am so sorry to hear about your appointment. I would also be reluctant to complain but take your husband to any further appointments or ask your mother to advocate for you and make sure she understands what you want. Take care of yourself this evening and let people look after you.

Thankfully scans show my baby is doing fine but I will very likely need a C section for my medical issues and it won't even be discussed until 36 weeks which is frustrating. I am so afraid all of the slots will be booked!

I tried colostrum harvesting tonight (37 weeks today) and managed to get a few drops. Getting it into the syringe though was a nightmare! Couldn't get the hang of it at all

Had another growth scan. Baby girl is estimated 5lb 2oz at 35+2 which I’m really pleased about!

did you have any signs of milk before harvesting @Oreopie ?

Is anyone really struggling. 34wks and the pressure and back ache and tightenings are getting to much for me now and the loose stools for a few weeks straight , I'm worried he will be early I had my last baby at 36+4, I've got a section booked for 38weekz but even my midwife thinks I won't make to 38 weeks due to what's going on with by body , I can't even roll over or walk anymore . I just want to cry 😭😭😭, xx

@Oreopie i couldn’t hack the syringe either so I use the sterilise bottles you can grab for urine samples. Suggestion from midwife in my previous pregnancy. Find it way easier personally! X

@Oreopie do you have silverettes? My midwife gave me that tip, express colostrum drops into those as they are naturally sterile then use the syringe to uptake it from there! Rather than trying to get the individual drops straight from the boob x

@LeeanneD11 I can’t roll over. To go from my left to right side in bed I have to almost sit up and turn myself. And then I’m awake. And then I have to get up and wee!

I'm the same awake for hours cause of it , even more pillows not helping me xx

I'm on special pillows now. I have a large wedged pillow (ends at bottom of my spine), so I'm always up at a decent angle (thank you reflux), normal pillow for extra incline, then my U shaped pregnancy pillow topping it off. Already being more upright means I sleep better and much easier to turn over without waking up too much. Appreciate not everyone can do that though.

Bladder, kicks and punches definitley still wake me up though 😅

Hello is anyone in the west London area? Heston/twickenham/isleworth etc and at West middlesex hospital? I’m due on 8th nov

@LeeanneD11 I’m really tired with it now; the poor DC are bearing the brunt as I try and get them
up and out in the mornings. I’ve got a u shaped pillow but I’m not sure it’s helping. I’m almost looking forward to post c-section when I know I’ll only be comfy sleeping on my back, propped up, but not will I sleep!

@WriMum22 so sorry you had such an awful experience.
As someone working in healthcare I would actually urge you to complain. Nothing changes if you don’t and you could spare some other mother the same experience. Not only that, they will handle you with more care once you do. Just my 2 cents as I can understand your reticente but no one should be made to feel like that and better to set the record straight while she’s free to write such things in your notes.
Also, at 37 weeks your baby can be considered full term.

Thanks ladies. I spoke to a lady from the hospital late yesterday who was so lovely and the chat was really positive, helped reaffirm that I am in control of my own care and I will not be spoken to or treated like I am child or a non entity.

A few ladies in the other group I’m in have started to have their babies which is exciting, so I don’t think it’ll be long till it starts in this group 😊

Solidarity on the consultant front, luckily no where near as difficult a situation as yours @WriMum22 . But I've not had a single appointment with my named consultant this whole pregnancy but met with 5 others covering for her and each one has given different opinions or guidance on the same things. I've anxiety and it doesn't help to be getting conflicting advice.

I'm so ready to have baby now, I'm not sleeping well at all, had an awful night last night, hot, cold, joint pain, nausea, struggling to move, I can't wait to actually be tired in the night so I can sleep, even with a newborn waking me up!

Had pre op yesterday and section booked for tomorrow, it feels all very odd, and not real!

@GemmaJen Good luck for tomorrow, so exciting for you, won’t be long and your little baby will be here in your arms. We will all look back at this and smile 😊

Just wondered how everyone packed there hospital bags?
I got a cabin case but packed last night and had a meltdown as couldn't fit all my stuff and babies stuff in same case lol
Now resorting to cabin case for me and hold-all for baby. Really didn't want to take 2 bags 🙈