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Advice on newborn essentials

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Alex8899 · 13/08/2023 01:34

I’m really stuck on what to buy as a FTP and reading lots of reviews and articles is making me more confused.
What does a newborn need in terms of the following?
-bedside crib for the first 6 months or straight to a cot? Snuzpod and Chicago next2me sound appealing - are they worth it?
-travel system 3 in 1 up to £450 with isofix base. I like the idea of the Joie Litetrak. Could the bassinet included double up as a Moses basket, or should I buy a separate Moses basket?
-baby swing: I like the joie seraphina, any other suggestions welcome
-are sleepyheads worth it?
Thank you!

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Bluesheeps · 13/08/2023 01:49

bedside crib- absolutely especially if you plan breast feeding. We had a snuzpod, check Facebook etc for second hand. You can always buy a new mattress.
moses basket not that useful so use the one you get with your pram.
sleepyhead for us was a godsend - but not recommended as per lullaby trust. But to be honest by their description babies should be in an empty cardboard box

Alex8899 · 13/08/2023 01:51

Bluesheeps · 13/08/2023 01:49

bedside crib- absolutely especially if you plan breast feeding. We had a snuzpod, check Facebook etc for second hand. You can always buy a new mattress.
moses basket not that useful so use the one you get with your pram.
sleepyhead for us was a godsend - but not recommended as per lullaby trust. But to be honest by their description babies should be in an empty cardboard box

Thank you! I’ve looked at fb marketplace and some bedside cribs are going for less than half the retail price so I’d rather buy it that way and get things that make life a little easier.

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Alex8899 · 13/08/2023 01:51

Thank you @PeopleAreWeird

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Mumuser124 · 13/08/2023 01:55

Moses baskets are brilliant because you can move them around and pop them in the cot at night.

swing was absolutely useless with a newborn, mine liked it for 5 mins at a time and then wanted to be held again. The swing was a godsend from 3-4 months onwards.

I found my sleepyhead to be a waste of money. My baby wanted to be held constantly so I only used it when I needed to pop out of the room to make sure they were safe, I could have just popped mine in the Moses basket to be honest.

Something I found very useful was a head cushion to stop flat head syndrome. I bought mine from Jojo, cost about £15 and stopped my little one from rolling over in the night.

I also bought an owlet foot sensor which was above all, my most most useful item. Without going into details, for us, it was worth its weight in gold.

Bluesheeps · 13/08/2023 01:58

@Mumuser124 guess this just goes to show how different these babies all are! We had an owlet and i binned it after 3 days haha

Hufflepods · 13/08/2023 06:53

PeopleAreWeird · 13/08/2023 01:45

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/

Please check the current guidance on things like snuzepods

What are you actually linking? It doesn’t say anything and as far as I’m aware the LT doesn’t advise against the Snuzpod in any way.

Hufflepods · 13/08/2023 06:56

OP I would advise you to get a bedside crib rather than straight to a cot. Firstly the baby is in your room and most people can’t have a full size cot by their bed. Also babies that young struggle to sleep in a big, wide space so you would probably come across that issue. The side also comes down on the next to me and snuzpod which makes it easier to get a tiny baby in and out.
I really rave the snuzpod, they are easy to pick up second half for about £40/50. Buy a new mattress and you’ve still saved half the amount.

PurBal · 13/08/2023 07:06

Sleep
DC 1: Moses basket on stand that I could move up and downstairs. Outgrown by 4 weeks (I have long babies) so into his own room in a cot. I shared with him.
DC 2: Moses basket as before. Outgrown by 4 weeks so moved into a travel cot in our room (DC will share eventually). I felt nervous about using a travel cot but HV were fine with it and just point me to the lullaby trust safe sleep guidelines.
Friends and family rave over sleepyheads but neither of my babies have slept so badly I’ve tried them. As PP said, “nests” aren’t recommended for overnight sleep. I also co slept with both.
Travel System
Some bassinets are suitable for overnight sleep but if you look at the lullaby trust more are probably okay than are certified. Certainly I’d use them for daytime sleep. I actually went with a lie flat from birth pushchair and a lie flat car seat (Cybex Cloud Z) which extended the time DC could be in the car seat. It depends on your lifestyle. A bassinet attachment would have been too bulky for us, at the time DC1 was born I had a 3 door mini and live rurally.
Didn’t get a baby swing, not needed it.

TropicalTrama · 13/08/2023 07:15

I liked the moses basket as it’s easy to move around. I only had that and the big cot, never had a bedside crib but I got lucky with decent sleepers so they were happy to sleep alone and never had more than one night feed. Didn’t have a swing but we did have the newborn pod on the tripp trapp high chair. Also used the pram for naps. Sleepyheads or dock a tots are incredibly dangerous and have been banned in Canada and the US. How they’re still on sale in the UK I don’t know so definitely avoid. We didn’t have a travel system either. We got more use out of a fixed group 0/1 seat that stayed in the car because it lasts until aged 4. Babies aren’t supposed to spend too long in car seats when newborn, and then they get too heavy to move like that so not sure how useful they are tbh.

Junebug22 · 13/08/2023 07:18

Moses basket - we ended up with two because we/the baby loved it so much. We had one downstairs and one upstairs. Then moved him into the next to me when he got too big for it. They’re great because you can lift them while the baby is asleep in it. Quite often he’d fall asleep at 9/10pm in the early days and my husband would lift it upstairs without waking him. Genius!

Bedside crib -we got a next to me second hand. Ended up using the moses baskets so we didn’t get much use out of it. Maybe 1 or 2 months before we moved him to his cot in his own room at 6 months.

Baby swing seats - Honestly can be the biggest waste of money. A relative bought us one for about £80 and he HATED it. What did he love? A third hand vibrating bouncy seat that I got for £5 on marketplace. However a friend’s baby absolutely loved their fancy electronic one! I’d recommend trying to get something second hand or see if you can try baby in a friend’s. When you find one they like though, they’re magic! You can get 10-15 mins for a cup of tea! (Also when baby is older -usually about 6 months I think, need to have good head support -a Jumperoo! You’ll get one on marketplace easily and they’re amazing for keeping baby in one place and entertained for a while).

Travel system - Pros and cons. We did go for one but in hindsight maybe a waste of money. Baby had horrendous acid reflux so wouldn’t lie flat in the bassinet without screaming from about 6 weeks old. We ended up moving him to the stroller part at about 3 months old and he was a new baby! Turned out it reclined almost completely flat anyway, although you could also purchase a newborn insert for it. We also hated the car seat that came with it -hood made a horrible sound when you pulled it up or down, was tricky to fit onto the chassis of the pram and felt like baby outgrew it by about 8 months. (He’s very long to be fair and it would have felt like that probably in any first size car seat). Looking back we would’ve been better just buying the stroller, a different car seat and the car seat adapters. That said, we LOVE our pram. Not sure if you have to purchase rain covers, sun shades etc separate. So it might be worth you pricing everything on its own.

sleepyhead - friend gave us theirs as their baby never used it… and neither did ours! They should never be left to sleep in them unattended but neither baby would ever chill in them on the sofa with a parent. Not really sure what the point of them is.

Oh and with the pram bassinet: they can nap in them but apart from the new Silver Cross Reef, I don’t think any are 100% approved for overnight sleeping due to air flow. So you couldn’t use the bassinet the way you could a moses basket if baby fell asleep in it late at night.

My biggest take away as a first time parent has been: consider buying secondhand as everything has a shelf life of about 3-6 months and then they outgrow it! Longer lasting items like pram, cotbed, nursery furniture are worth investing in if you can afford it, but most other stuff I’d shop around for.

Oh and whatever sleep item you go for, get a couple of mattress protectors! Between spit up, leaky nappies, spilled milk… you’ll appreciate only having to change a sheet and not the mattress in the middle of the night!

TropicalTrama · 13/08/2023 07:19

PeopleAreWeird · 13/08/2023 01:45

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/

Please check the current guidance on things like snuzepods

I think maybe you’re confusing sleepyheads with the snuzpod? The snuzpod is just a bedside crib. It’s the sleepyhead nest that isn’t safe.

TheOutlaws · 13/08/2023 07:19

I didn’t really use prams/buggies for transport, I preferred to carry my babies in slings. Google your nearest sling library, you’ll need a couple of different types depending on size of baby/situation. I learnt to feed DS2 in it, too, which was convenient!

Glendaruel · 13/08/2023 07:20

Neither of mine had sleepyheads. Didn't have a swing but cheap bouncy chair was useful as spot to put them. I had next to me crib with first and snuzpod with current. The snuzpod looks nicer. Both were 2nd hand with new mattresses. At around 6 months we got cot, that then turned into toddler bed. Facebook marketplace is your friend. Everything but the car seat can be sourced there and resold in time. One thing I recommend is a disco ball next to cot. Mine has remote control. Turn it on and she loves watching the lights on ceiling and I get 15 extra minutes in bed.

Pram wise. I have a cosatto wow xl as we intended to have two in short space of time and it will adapt for that. We got something that had been tested for occasional overnight sleeping. Watch the size of it and your car boot and think about it you use public transport lots. Also my husband is talk so likes an adjustable handle.

lizzaliza · 13/08/2023 07:22

Definitely bedside crib.

Sleepyhead not recommend for overnight.

To prevent flat head I would get a sling and use that for naps - lots of benefits to baby, and they don't lie flat all the time.

Caspianberg · 13/08/2023 07:26

I didn’t like our next to me co sleeper. Blocked me using bedside table and was so far down bed you have to slide down bed to get out near the bottom. No great after stitches from birth. So it was on dh side with meant he have to lift baby for every feed and back.
I would just use a Moses basket in future. Can be moved around also.

Ds napped in pram carrycot downstairs

Bouncer was handy, get lightweight as again you can then move around if you need somewhere in kitchen/ bathroom/ garden for baby to sit. I loved our babybjorn

never used car seat on pram so wouldn’t worry if it isn’t compatible

QueenOfWeeds · 13/08/2023 07:30

DD didn’t really use her Moses basket for napping (or the pram, or the cot, or anything other than my arms) BUT you will still want somewhere safe to put baby down. We borrowed a Moses basket for downstairs, and a sleepyhead for the bathroom so I could see her as I showered. We intended to never let her sleep in the sleepyhead (but she never did anyway, so it was a moot point). What it was most useful for, for us, was taking on car journeys. We had to travel for a funeral when she was a few months old and we put it in the boot at the services so she had somewhere comfy and flat for wriggling around. I also used it to change her nappy in the back of the car when it was raining too hard to dash across the car park to the loos in the services.

I believe the Uppababy bassinet is also safe for overnight sleeping, but again that wasn’t a situation we ever had.

We used the Tripp Trapp newborn seat mentioned earlier a lot, and the ergo embrace sling was the only place she would nap so for me that was worth its weight in gold. Also a baby bjorn bouncer - £££ new, but always on marketplace and you can wash the fabric but in the machine.

VivaVivaa · 13/08/2023 07:31

bedside crib for the first 6 months or straight to a cot?
Bedside crib. We actually have the Moses basket in the next2me as DC2 prefers it. But still a useful piece of equipment. I’d caveat by saying try and borrow one or get second hand with a new mattress. DC1 wouldn’t be put down, at all, for the first 8 weeks and after that would only sleep in my bed. If he’d been our only DC it would have been a complete waste of money.

travel system 3 in 1 up to £450 with isofix base. I like the idea of the Joie Litetrak. Could the bassinet included double up as a Moses basket, or should I buy a separate Moses basket?
I don’t have any knowledge of that travel system, but I would have a separate Moses basket. If baby falls asleep on you and you aren’t right next to the pram or it’s folded up in the car having somewhere easily accessible to put baby is useful. We actually have 2 Moses baskets (both second hand/borrowed from
friend), one upstairs and one downstairs for ease of baby dumping.

baby swing: I like the joie seraphina, any other suggestions welcome
Dont bother until baby is here and you have a handle on who they are. And even then get second hand. Complete waste of money for my DC - DC1 screamed in it and DC2 tolerates about ten minutes but doesn’t sleep in it and overall prefers his baby Bjorn bouncy seat.

are sleepyheads worth it?
Not in my experience. But some friends swore by them. Hard to not be tempted to use them for overnight sleep if you find your DC settles well in them, which supposedly isn’t safe.

Emsxox · 13/08/2023 07:50

We got the next to me dream which our first loved. We’ve got the silver cross Brompton package pram which we’ll use again.
We never had a swing but considering it this time?
we had something similar to a sleepyhead but a lot cheaper and it wasn’t used an awful lot so was glad in the end we didn’t fork out as much.

a Moses basket is worth it for daytime naps too x

AttackCherubim · 13/08/2023 08:01

You can buy everything bar the mattresses and car seat second hand.
Can seats because you don't know if they've been in a crash or not.

Isofix base not necessary depending on the slope of your seat (ie mine is sloped so I need a base or seat is too upright. Go to a specialist (Not Halfords!) to see what fits.

Side cots were a lifesaver for me (DS woke every 45 mins!). We were initially loaned one but had to give it back so got one second hand and it's about to be used for baby 2.

I would recommend getting a pram and side cot cleaned and serviced though, just to make sure it's in perfect order.

LeopardLover · 13/08/2023 08:11

After reading all the pro moses basket posts here, a word of warning, I only know of one baby that slept in theirs! You'll find LOADS barely used on FB marketplace because a lot of babies won't touch them.

Save yourself some cash, buy that secondhand with a new mattress. We had ours given to us, thankfully 😅

We loved the Snuzpod, although baby slept on us for the first 8 weeks.

Must haves this time round also include a BabyBjorn bouncer and an Ergobaby 360 carrier. I've tried cheaper bouncers but this one is superior and I've tried about 8 different carriers and that's the best one! Get secondhand too.

BuffaloCauliflower · 13/08/2023 08:22

-bedside crib for the first 6 months or straight to a cot? Snuzpod and Chicago next2me sound appealing - are they worth it?
Yes to a bedside crib, though I’ve got a space saver one that can be a cosleeper too. But mostly I’d look into how to safely bedshare, as most new mums end up doing it for at least a period of time (for me, born babies have ended up exclusively bedsharing so we all get the most sleep) and it’s better to be prepared in advance than trying to google it when you’re knackered.

-travel system 3 in 1 up to £450 with isofix base. I like the idea of the Joie Litetrak. Could the bassinet included double up as a Moses basket, or should I buy a separate Moses basket?
For car seats I’d recommend joining the group ‘Extended Rear Facing (ERF) Car Seat Safety’ on Facebook and seeing what’s recommended. You’d be shocked how poor the testing is on a significant portion of car seats in this country. We have an Avionaut Pixel Pro infant carrier and it’s excellent, you can really see the difference with other seats. I don’t have a wheel base for it because baby was always put into a flat pram or swing when small. They shouldn’t be pushed round shops in an infant carrier on wheels.
Fine to use most prams to sleep in downstairs, but you might find your baby prefers to sleep on you. Neither of mine have used the Moses basket much, I used it more for then second to protect her from the toddler!
Get a good sling, with a wide crotch that supports baby knee to knee. If their legs are hanging straight down it’s a bad carrier.

-baby swing: I like the joie seraphina, any other suggestions welcome
Neither of mine have ever wanted to be in swings/chairs etc. On the floor or in arms mostly. Don’t spend much, or get one second hand!

-are sleepyheads worth it?
Not really. They’re not safe for unsupervised sleep like over night. I’ve never needed one.

QueenOfWeeds · 13/08/2023 09:21

You can also rent a lot of baby equipment, which might be an idea before forking out new. Or ask around and see if people want to borrow.

My top tip, if you are in an antenatal group, is to club together and create your own variety pack of bottles, eg 4 families each buy 1 type of bottle, then split the packs between you so the baby can try 4 different bottles. We ended up doing something similar to this in our group but by swapping once we knew what our babies did/didn’t like. Even if you intend to EBF, you may want a bottle or two so someone else can feed the baby. It drives me potty that you can’t buy a selection pack and instead have to spend £££ buying packs of 2 or 4 (?!) bottles just to find out your baby doesn’t like them.

rhu22 · 13/08/2023 10:29

Hi, I'm 28 weeks and got quite stressed at times wondering what on earth to buy. I did a lot of research before I bought anything because I just hadn't a clue.
So far I've got:
Tutti bambini bedside crib because it folds up nicely and we have a couple trips away from home planned. I was always planning on getting a side crib as I plan to breastfeed and our house is getting done so no room until he's 6 months anyway. Then I'll want a cot that converts to toddler bed.

Travel system was a headache for me I went back and forth so much. In the end I got a shop floor model for about 500 less - pram with carrycot and accessories. It's the uppababy so carrycot approved for overnight sleep, there's even ventilation and little feet on the bottom so it can actually go on floor, but I got a rocking stand off amazon as only plan to use for downstairs naps if he likes it, I won't buy anything else for sleeping in.

Baby swings I've looked at but seem overpriced if he doesn't like it. I've got the munchkin one saved but I might wait til he's here before deciding.

Sleepyheads and baby nest type things have too many warnings for me to want to bother. We both work from home and have a teenage stepdaughter and between us there will always be someone willing to sit and hold baby in first months if he won't settle somewhere.

Other things I've considered are a high chair with the newborn seat so he can sit at the table with us sometimes and just a basic bouncer. And a play mat, nothing fancy and won't be using lots at first as we have small dogs so I will prefer him to be up off the floor.

The avionaut pixel car seat - I'll just belt it in - at first I wanted the all singing and dancing spin and slide base or a reclining cybex, but since looking into safety and really considering how I'll use it I've decided a really lightweight seat is more beneficial for me and the ones for the fancy bases tend to be heavy. I also wouldn't leave baby in the car seat long at all even with recline so see no point whilst he's so young. Can't see us needing to clip the seat onto the pram often if at all either, but wanted the option in case so have bought adaptors. Next stage seat I'll reconsider a spinning base that stays in the car as he'll be too heavy to clip on pram or carry in and out in anyway. As he'll be a winter baby I think it'll be easier to nip in and out with a light seat too.

Other things I've bought are the Joie carrier which can be used from birth so I hope will be good for dog walks. I considered a sling type first but don't last long and some seem a faff. The carrier has magnetic clips and it looks easy enough.

I think that's it for the main things. I've looked into monitors briefly but I'm not sure we'll need one at first until he's going for naps in a different room to us which won't be straight away. So can wait til he's here, I've just been saving things so I don't have to go through the process of choosing again.

I think my point here is you really have to consider how you might use things/your lifestyle which is hard as a first time parent but better than going mad and then not using any of it. Also I've realised I don't need everything before he's here which has allowed me to relax a bit. Deliveries can be next day and at first they are only really going to want and need us. Which is lovely!

BuffaloCauliflower · 13/08/2023 11:02

@rhu22 we have a Hauck high chair with a newborn attachment and it’s great to be able to have them up high to chat while cooking and things. I will say once we are actually giving food we’ve used the IKEA Antilop high chair instead, then my toddler went back to the Hauck with all the front off once he was sitting at the table

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