I get freaked out with involvment in my pregnancy

[JungleBookGal]

Hi all,

Basically me and my partner have found out im pregnant. It wasnt unplanned as such, we agreed at the time if I became pregnant we would continue as we wanted to start trying next year anyway.

It was a shock when it was positive, were both very private and reserved people so jumping up and down and being overly excited about it just isnt who we are.
We told both our parents the day of as we felt like we were happy to share the news.
But soon after everyones excitement and involvment and constant talking about pregnancy, the baby and what will change about me, my body and life is starting to really get me down.
My MIL made cupcakes for me with little baby toppers, got me gifts, keeps checking that ive made gp appointments. My parents keep sending my baby grows, baby items and forcing me to choose a cot now so she can buy it for me. Im only 5 weeks so its really just too early for all of this. Ill get random messages throughout the day about the baby, and ill just be there getting on with my day as normal almost forgetting that im pregnant.

I feel like i dont even want to see or talk to my family because i dont want to talk about being pregnant or about the baby. I just feel really really uncomfortable with all of this. I feel like it want everyone to treat me as if im not pregnant, at least until its obvious that i am (large bump and due date soon).
I really want this to be mine and my partners thing not everyone elses. If the baby was a 3rd party cooking away not inside of me, but because its in me i just feel like its really intrusive everyone being invovled.
Has anyone else felt like this at all or i alone in my strange feelings.

Your DH is flying red flags and I’m concerned he’s turning it on you. How is he going to be when you are both struggling with sleep deprivation and the house is a tip because the baby is cluster feeding and you are weepy because of hormones and exhaustion? Is he going to be unpleasant with you and point out other women manage? Is he going to express disappointment in you as a mother and say it sounds like you are negative about your new son/ daughter? Because if he does he is an abusive prick and thick with it.

He needs to read some books about pregnancy, childbirth and early years. Make sure he attends any antenatal classes you go to.

The vast majority of women survive childbirth now, but birth injuries are very common and it is rational to be nervous. It is still a dangerous journey for mother and baby.

You need to make sure your families don’t overwhelm you once the baby is here and your “D”H needs to have your back on that and act as gatekeeper. I fear he is going to disappoint you.

@LightDrizzle makes a very good point, your going to need your DH full support through this. He needs to shape up and start protecting you from over enthusiastic if well-meaning family and friends.

Also agree with pp that anything could happen, plenty of women unfortunatly have misscariages in first trimester and it would be good idea to remind family of this and politely ask them to back off.

I would also not feel comfterbal discussing pregnancy and baby with anyone (other than dp) this early on but I think you can see from responses so far that many women would not feel happy with this behaviour this early on. Your husband's wrong to suggest this is anything other than normal way to feel at this stage.