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When and how did you tell your DP you were pregnant?

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mrsdrablowsbittersister · 06/08/2023 17:41

Did you tell them straight away or wait a little while? Did you make a big thing or it or just tell them?

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FiddleLeaf · 06/08/2023 20:08

I came out of the bathroom with the test he knew I was taking and the second line was already appearing. It was very chilled & not a big dramatic reveal. It’s just so early anyway and you had to protect yourself a little bit.

CremeEggsForBreakfast · 06/08/2023 20:16

Months previously (before we were even trying) I found THE most beautiful and perfect babygro I had ever seen. I bought it and hid it from DH because he would think me nuts for buying clothes for a non-existant baby.

We had been trying for a few months and were travelling to see family for Christmas and I knew that there would be all sorts of food and drink being offered that weren't friendly for pregnant women so even though my period wasn't late DH and I agreed I'd take a precautionary test.

I was gobsmacked when the test was a strong positive.

I found the babygro still in its bag, popped the test in and gave it to DH. All at about 7am. We lay in bed and talked it all over. It was lovely.

mummy21blueeyed · 06/08/2023 20:20

We’d had a tiny bit of a rough day I went out and bought tests went and took my family somewhere came home went to do the test and I walked over to him with it upside down and said to him ( I don’t know the result) he turned it over and there was 2 lines clearly there and he was so overwhelmed we’d just had two miscarriages in the 3 months prior.

Nejnej · 06/08/2023 20:24

I shouted "it's positive" from the bathroom - he thought I meant I had COVID 😅

MiMiPies · 06/08/2023 20:26

He heard the "oh shit" from the bathroom

Olika · 06/08/2023 20:38

I did the test in the morning when my DH was at work so I had to wait until he came home, took shower and ate (physical work) as I wanted him to sit on the sofa with me. Showed him the test and he didn't really react too much which I think was as I had mc our first few years earlier. He wanted us to take it day by day and not tell anybody until we knew we would be successful this time around.

Ohidontbloodyknow · 06/08/2023 20:40

He was wfh, I asked him if I could talk to him, he said “will it take long?”, I said “yes, about 18 years”.

Tailfeather · 06/08/2023 20:57

Mine was also with me when I did the test. I would have felt bad keeping it from him. We were in it together so it felt fair to find out together.

TokyoSushi · 06/08/2023 21:11

We went and bought the test together and then waited in the bathroom for it to show up together! Bless us, that was 13 years ago and we were a bit scared!

I expect it would be far more practical now!

PrincessesRUs · 06/08/2023 21:23

I suddenly at 8.30am on a Tuesday felt I needed a wee which was really unusual (I'm a teacher so wee on schedule at school!) - I waited all week and kept it to myself so I could test on a Friday. By the Friday I'd not got my period so guessed I must be. Went to buy the test and bumped into a student right by the tests so had to keep looping around to check the coast was clear. Bought a packet of baby bells at the same time. Got home and tested and then presented him with a baby bell - our surname is bell. It took him a while to cotton on to what I was saying!

Farcry66 · 06/08/2023 21:49

I found out I was pregnant on the day my partner moved in (which sounds far worse than it was, he basically lived at mine during weekends and school holidays, but he worked in London and had a flat there - it was the last day of his job in London so officially moved in full time that evening!).

I'd bought some baby booties when we decided to start trying about a year ago, so I put them in a gift box along with the positive test- gave it to him as a house warming present!!!

caringcarer · 06/08/2023 23:26

I wanted to do a test but I saw it said urine from early morning best. I got up to go to the loo at about 4.30am and decided to do the test. It was positive so I woke up DP to tell him. He was half asleep and said that's good and was still sleeping really. In the morning he woke up and said he'd had a dream I was pregnant. I showed him the stick and he took a photo of it grinning from ear to ear. He wanted to send the photo to his parents but I made him wait until 13 weeks. Sadly I miscarried at 16 1/2 weeks.

USaYwHatNow · 06/08/2023 23:35

He was away with work both times I found out I was pregnant (1x misc, 1x now 11mo!)

1st time I handed him a set of keyrings that said 'big boo' and 'little boo'. It was Halloween and they were monsters. He literally sat there staring at them until he eventually got it and asked if I was pregnant 😂 I'd found out 2 days preciously but wanted to tell him F2F.

The second time he was away with work and wasn't likely to come home at all so I video called him and towards the end of the call I held up the pregnancy test. Which was great because he couldn't react even though he wanted to 😂 he was away for the whole pregnancy bar about 2 weeks so it was a bit of a now or never situation!

annlee3817 · 07/08/2023 07:45

DD1 - He was at work and I sent him an email as soon as I got the positive result
DD2 - he was working downstairs and I went down to the kitchen with the test and told him

Didn't want to wait

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/08/2023 07:55

I’ve told my DH 4 times. The first time was very early in our relationship and I showed him the box of tests a few hours after I had taken them. He asked if I’d taken them already which I had. He then hugged me and told me we’d get through it together.

The second time, we had been TTC and I showed him the positive test straight after taking it. More hugging and happiness. Ended in an early miscarriage.

The third time, over a year after the second one and TTC the whole time, I didn’t tell him until I had a fairly strong positive test. More hugging but cautious this time.

The fourth time, DH and I had been on the fence about DC3 so had unprotected sex once and nowhere near ovulation. We then made a firm decision for no more but we knew it was a possibility so I tested to make sure. A faint but obvious positive. Called DH into the bathroom and showed him and he laughed and hugged me.

Overall, my go to is show my DH a test and he hugs me. There is no one else I’d rather be having planned and unplanned children with.

Matildahoney · 07/08/2023 08:06

First time we were going out to an engagement party and I thought I'd test to be on the safe side, he was out sunbathing, I tested without telling him & then just handed him the test, think he was in a little bit of a shock even though we'd been ttc, that ended in miscarriage.

2nd time he was at work, although we'd been TTC I put my late period down to stress, he'd moved in, we'd sorted his house for tenants, we'd just started going for private fertility testing, I did a test, was itching to tell him, waited till he got in from work, handed him the test and he asked how! 🤣 Then cried!

FoodFann · 07/08/2023 08:30

On the phone immediately after I did the test. No big American ‘reveal’.

neleh87 · 07/08/2023 08:55

We weren't actively TTC but knew there was a chance. When we came back off holiday, I realised my period was a couple of days late, so I told him.
Waited until the next day then went to asda to pick up a test, we watched it turn positive together 😊

Perhaps if there's a next time, it would be nice to tell him as a cute surprise like pp

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