14 weeks, bleeding, afraid

[Kirova]

It seems silly to post here, but I'm feeling scared and I need a bit of moral support.

I'm 14+3 and last night I had quite bad aches at the bottom of my back. I didn't think too much about it because I'd been a bit unwell all day with an upset stomach and fever and I thought it would be connected to that. But in the night, I got some cramping pains and I've had some quite significant bleeding - more than spotting, but not enough to be sure that it's a miscarriage.

I am going to the early pregnancy unit at the hospital now (they've said they will be able to do a scan) but I couldn't go as soon as I would've wished because I needed to make arrangements for my two daughters. My husband works abroad and at the moment he's completely uncontactable and not due back for another week.

I feel scared - this baby wasn't planned but I was so happy and I thought I was past the danger zone to be honest. I'm worried if I MC this late it will be an awful experience. I've still got pains but, like I mentioned, I've had this upset stomach and it's hard to tell if it's due to that or something else. I haven't bled any more at the moment.

I just need a bit of virtual support really; sorry for being a bit pathetic.

You're not pathetic at all xx so sorry your going through this. What time is your appointment today xx

You’re not pathetic at all. It must be so hard to be going through this when your husband is away and you have two children to care for. Can a friend or family member go with you to the scan?

I don’t have any tips or advice (only 6+5 with my first pregnancy) but just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and holding your hand from afar.

Hope the scan gives you answers xx

Handholding here. Of course you’re upset, it’s a horrible thing to do through.

I hope you get some RL support and get in touch with DH soon

It's at 1.30 so I don't have too long to wait.

Thanks for the support - I really appreciate it. One of my friends is going to meet me at the hospital, which I'm so grateful for. It was a bit stressful trying to make arrangements for my daughters, since it is holidays and everyone has plans or is away - but I managed to sort something out in the end. They're only 4 and 5 so I've tried not to show that anything is wrong; I don't want to scare them.

@Kirova really glad your friend is going with you. We are here if you need anything xx

Wishing you well op . Hopefully a bleed from something else that isn't issue to baby xx

Hope everything's okay cx

Wishing you well op x

Thank you SO much - it means a lot. I got to the hospital early because I was so anxious about being late! My daughter was upset (the younger one) and I was worried she was going to kick off, but it was all okay in the end.

I had a tiny bit of bleeding again but it was just little spots, so I don't know what to think really. I'm afraid to hope! I've got such bad pains in my back and it feels just like when I was actually in labour with DD1 and DD2, so that's worried me too.

i hope everything goes well op.

I’m thinking of you, and just wanted to say it doesn’t necessarily mean miscarriage, I had bleeding as you describe at 13 weeks in my first pregnancy that they couldn’t find a cause for. Could have been cervix, overdoing it, a polyp. DS is fine and playing with playdoh next to me. So don’t worry until you know. Wishing you all the best.

Hi @Kirova hoping all is ok xx

Thinking of you @Kirova xx

Hope everything will be fine with baby and you🙏🏻I had pretty heavy bleeding at 14 weeks and 1 day. Ultrasound showed that baby is ok, never had explanation what it was...

Thank you for all the moral support! The scan showed that everything is fine, and there's no obvious reason for the bleeding at all. It might just be one of those things. I felt a bit silly for panicking and making a fuss!

However, it turns out I have a kidney infection and they want to admit me for the night for IV antibiotics. Trying to work something out for the kids, but it's all a bit of a nightmare. If I cannot sort anything out, I'll have to go with oral antibiotics and keep an eye on it for the next 24-48 hours. But on the positive side, I am SO relieved about the scan.

Glad everything looked okay x
My daughter had bad bleeds all through her first pregnancy (when I say bad I mean gushing down her legs) and we spent many hours in the assessment unit dreading to hear bad news 😩.
He's a cheeky little toddler now and every time I look at him i still think how the hell did you stay in there and grow 🥰

So so pleased you went and got checked out and it turns out you need need antibiotics xx

I'm just reading this now. I'm on my 3rd pregnancy and nearly 30 weeks. I've had this on and off this pregnancy and never had before on previous 2 pregnancies. At 20 weeks scan I was told I've got a low lying placenta and that's what's causing it. I saw consultant and apart from extra scans yo see if I placenta moves up, there wasn't a log of advice except avoiding intercourse. But weirdly it became a pattern- Friday evenings it was the worst and it dawned on me it's after I squat down at the washing machine! Like magic, it's stopped but it's probably that my placenta moved up as expected. Who knows, but it was scary at the start for sure. Hospital said they'd give me as many scans as I need, but now I can feel baby moving a lot it's not worrying me when it happens.

Thanks for sharing the positive stories - it's good to hear that you can have a bleed like that and everything be okay. Although I'm hoping it's not going to keep happening, since I don't know if I could deal with the anxiety. I was planning to let work know this week (as I'd quite suddenly gone from looking like I'd eaten an over-large lunch to having a definite and noticeable bump) but now I'm feeling like I might hold off... so as not to jinx anything, which is ridiculous, I know! But thanks again for the moral support yesterday and for sharing positive experiences x