Slowly going mad

[Scotty22]

I had a missed miscarriage last year at 17 weeks after my 6th round of IVF and now I am lucky enough to be pregnant again after another round.

I had a scan at 7 weeks 4 days and everything was looking great, good heartbeat and measuring 7 weeks 4 days exactly. After the scan I felt great then the next day I started worrying I would have another miscarriage before my 12 week scan. I am normally a calm and pretty rational but I cant stop thing that everything is going to go wrong again. I have no reason to think this as have had no pain or bleeding and have morning sickness, sore boobs etc. So I booked private scan for last week when I was 10 weeks 3 days, again everything looked great.

I am still so scared that my NHS 12 week scan (which I am going to be 13 weeks) is going to be bad news. I cant think about anything else.

Anyone have any tips on how to calm my self down? Sometimes it feels like I cant even breathe!!

Firstly congratulations!
Secondly I'm 18 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage in Sept & from my experience & a lot of others in the group I'm in, the anxiety never quite goes! I'm sure it won't until baby is here!
I wouldn't look at the screen at my 12 weeks scan, only opened my eyes once the sonographer said there's the baby & there's the heartbeat!
Good luck!

How you're feeling is totally normal. I am pregnant after a long ivf journey. I had a couple of extra private scans priced at £50 each to give me more reassurance. They can only provide you with a snapshot of that exact moment but they really helped me. Just find a reputable place to go to.

Try some pregnancy meditation also. It definitely helped me xx

Thank you so much for the replies. I have been for a private scan and will probably go for another one between the 12th and 20th week scan. I kept my eyes shut too till I knew there was a heartbeat.

I just really wish I could enjoy this time after waiting so long for it.

@Scotty22 it's very tricky to get the balance right. My friend said to me recently, "I really wish you would try to enjoy this pregnancy. It's taken you such a long time to get here and chances are this will be the only time you get to be pregnant."

Absolutely go for the private 16 week scan, I did the same. But her advice really hit home with me. It took me such a long time to get here and I was spending the whole time super nervous and worried. It wasn't helping me at all x