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Any hope? Potential MMC

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Khanga27 · 02/08/2023 14:13

Hi there

I had a private at 8+2 weeks, told it was a suspected MMC. I see EPAU for a scan in 6 days (10 days after the private scan).

I had initially accepted things, but as the days have passed I am trying to grab any glimmer of hope (I know the chances of things being wrong are extremely slim) - I've had my pregnancy symptoms just the same like nausea, sore boobs etc which just feels cruel if the first scan is correct.

The MSD measurement was 23mm which she said is more or less where she would expect for where I am (give or take a few days), but it was the CRL measurement of 2mm that was the concern. No heartbeat. Is there a chance the embryo could have been hiding or at an awkward angle? Wondered if anyone had experienced similar and what the outcome was for them?

Any hope? Potential MMC
Any hope? Potential MMC
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Wen19 · 02/08/2023 15:55

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I hope and pray for a positive outcome for you but I think you need to start preparing your self for the worst right now. I’ve just been through exactly this. I have had my d&c yesterday to have the mmc removed.
mot was thanks to the lovely ladies on a thread I posted the same as this who helped me prepare for the worst outcome because without them I’d have had a break down.
I really really hope this isn’t the save for you and that baby is hiding!
have you had any cramps or brown discharge? Xx

Wen19 · 02/08/2023 15:56

Also I had sore boobs and all symptoms right up till I woke up after my operation yest. Even this morning a day after my boobies were sore which made me wake up and think it was a bad dream 🥺

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Khanga27 · 02/08/2023 16:07

@Wen19 Thanks so much for your reply. I've had no brown discharge or bleeding at all. Literally no indications to suggest anything is wrong. She did comment that the gestational sac was the right size to indicate I haven't got my dates wrong which was why she suspects the MMC when just a 2mm crown rump length (or what she suspected was the crown rump length).

I know deep down it doesn't look good. I suppose the approach to take is hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I just feel the more I wait for that NHS scan, the more I imagine that glimmer of hope. Even thoughts like "if it was an NHS scan it would have been classed as "intrauterine pregnancy of unknown viability" rather than suspected MMC keep popping in my head, but again i know its just false hope. I do think if news is confirmed on Tuesday then won't be a surprise at all.

Will look at your thread now.

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Wen19 · 02/08/2023 16:16

Aw darling I was the same as you. I was hanging on to every glimmer. Buttttt, I did have a lot of cramps and brown discharge! So there is we’re yours is more positive than mine! I hope that means something! You need to keep yourself busy for the next 6 days. 🩵🩷

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Khanga27 · 02/08/2023 16:24

Thank you. Yeah I decided to still work until Tuesday to distracted myself. I'm really sorry about your experience.

The sonographer seems pretty sure, but explained that under NHS would need 2 scans 10 days apart anyway. EPAU have said they will factor in the private scan at least. I keep thinking "what if its just behind the yolk sac hiding" or "what if i have an odd shaped uterus", but they probably can't even hide this early on, and they did a transvaginal so latter probably wouldnt matter. It just feels so cruel to have no clues or symptoms yet the sonographer being so certain.

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Wen19 · 02/08/2023 16:37

I know 🥺 I was so hopeful I kept doing tests was getting dye stealers and darker tests towards the end. My symptoms where getting stronger too. Our bodies can be very cruel 🥺
if I’d have just gone and not been on here chatting and finding out other peoples experiences I’d have not been ready at all and the shock would have set me back. As is now, although it was only yesterday, I feel sad, I keep having little cries but I have just ordered some proceive max and I’ll be ready to start again.
just know your not alone 🩵🫶🏻 xxx

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Khanga27 · 02/08/2023 16:49

Thank you, and I hope you are okay.

I know as well that if it is a MMC then it wasn't meant to be this time and I did what I could to get the right vitamins and diet from starting to try onwards. Doesn't make it any easier though.

Another fear is there being uncertainty and next scan and having to wait another 10 days.

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Khanga27 · 03/08/2023 11:11

I'm really struggling with the wait and trying to work is really difficult. I have family support but just feel a bit abandoned medically while I wait, is that normal?

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Wen19 · 03/08/2023 12:21

Hi honey! Absolutely!!! Bloody hell I was a nervous wreck for 2 weeks it was awful.
I know it’s hard but I kept thinking that there’s absolutely nothing you can do to change anything 🩷 also take the positive away that if this one isn’t meant to be it will happen again 🩷
have you had any cramps or anything? Do you feel okay? Xx

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Khanga27 · 03/08/2023 12:30

No cramps, no bleeding. Still nausea. Emotionally I've been crying on-off all day. Been trying to work but I just can't focus on anything. I feel like time is passing so slowly.

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Wen19 · 03/08/2023 14:34

🥺 you need to take a few days off babe. The mental pain is so much worse than the physical in this.
ok so no pain and no bleeding is a good sign!!!
try to stay positive. 🩵 if this pregnancy isn’t viable will you be trying again? 🩵 try prepare for every outcome…. That’s what I did and it really helped. Xxx

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Khanga27 · 03/08/2023 14:40

@Wen19 I'll do my best. This would be our first child and very much planned and wanted, so while it is difficult to think about at the moment we would be trying again once we felt ready for that. I think part of me would fear this happening again too though so I need to try to deal with that too.

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Wen19 · 03/08/2023 14:56

This would have been my 3rd (I have 2 with my previous partner) aged 20 and 19. I’m 43. I still have lots of hope and positivity. 🩵
dont let negative thoughts take over. 🩵

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Khanga27 · 04/08/2023 13:48

Will try my best. Fingers crossed you get good news.

Still no symptoms suggestive of miscarriage. Nausea has been quite bad today and have been so exhausted physically and mentally so have taken the day off work to try and rest the best I can. Just feel my body is being quite cruel at the moment.

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Wen19 · 04/08/2023 14:42

Hi sweety, ok ok well that’s positive! When is your scan again?
xx

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Khanga27 · 04/08/2023 17:08

The nausea is actually the worst I have had all pregnancy so far, which just feels beyond cruel at the moment given how things are looking.

My scan is on Tuesday.

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Wen19 · 04/08/2023 19:14

🥺 my nausea got worse towards the end. I’m really holding hope that yours is a better outcome than mine!!!
my boobs were the sorest they’d ever been on the morning I went for the operation 🥺 our bodies are very cruel for this. X

countrypunk · 05/08/2023 08:57

Hello OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so very hard.

I went through very similar in March and I'm afraid it wasn't good news for me. I was back and forth with the EPU for 3 weeks, and they were very reluctant to say that the pregnancy was going to end. I did a huge amount of my own research though and came to my own conclusions.

I'm not a medical professional, but from what I learned if the yolk sac is significantly larger than the foetus at this stage, it's not a good sign. Your scan looks very much like mine did at 7/8 weeks.

When my pregnancy ended I went for surgical management and I'm glad I did - I was very well looked after and there was minimal pain and bleeding afterwards.

I'm now pregnant again, so please don't lose hope that it can work out. Sending love.

Wen19 · 06/08/2023 13:43

Hi love how are you feeling? 🩷

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Khanga27 · 06/08/2023 13:48

@countrypunk thank you for your reply. Yes I don't think there is much hope to be honest. I just feel like my body is being cruel at the moment - worsening nausea, no spotting or cramps or anything to suggest anything was wrong. If I'd not had a private scan I would just be waiting another 4 weeks like there was nothing wrong. Thanks for sharing your experience it gives me hope for moving forwards

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Khanga27 · 06/08/2023 13:49

@Wen19 I still have quite bad nausea which is really frustrating. Just trying hard to keep busy at the moment until Tuesday. Thanks.

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Wen19 · 09/08/2023 17:16

Hi love how has today gone? 🩷💙🩵

nomysundaybest · 09/08/2023 18:11

Fingers crossed for you xxxFlowersFlowers

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Khanga27 · 09/08/2023 22:44

It was confirmed yesterday that I have had a MMC. Was in EPAU for over 2 hours where they discussed through options and everything and they were so supportive. Have opted for medical management in hospital due to my tendency for fainting so I go in later this week.

I feel very sad but there is also a sense of closure that I am no longer in this limbo hell, and also feel with how its happened that there is nothing i could have done.

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