Early Pregnancy anxiety

[Dreamhex]

I’m 5weeks and 5 days pregnant today with a very very much wanted baby. We’ve been trying for 18 cycles before getting a positive test a few weeks ago. Initially I was absolutely over the moon but since then all I feel is anxiety! I’m so so nervous something will go wrong :(

my biggest worry is having an ectopic pregnancy I don’t have any of the main symptoms that indicates ectopic. My symptoms so far are on and off cramping (last few days this has been very minimal though), frequency urination, slight nausea mainly on the morning, few niggles here and there mainly ‘down there’, boobs are very very sore, also having general aches and pains everywhere. Yesterday I had a slight ache in my arm which I hope was just being I slept on it funny but I just can’t get ectopic out my head even with the lack of symptoms! Any one else have this overwhelming anxiety? I have health anxiety anyway so it’s not uncommon for me to panic over every little thing but this is driving me insane. I want this baby so so much and so scared I will lose them 😪

Hi Dreamhex. I’m 6+4 with my first too and completely understand where you are coming from about the overwhelming anxiety - I had my BFP on 8/7 and have been terrified ever since.

Something I have found helpful is setting small milestones, eg I had an early scan booked through work (I’m a midwife) for 26/7 and every day until then that nothing bad happened was a bonus. Was 5+6 with a heartbeat at that scan, so my next “goal” is my booking appointment with community midwife on 09/08. Then I will see if my colleagues can squeeze another cheeky scan in between that and my 12 week scan.

it helps to remember that when the BFP hit, I didn’t think this pregnancy would stick until 26/07 so every day is a bonus.

First timer here to, 10+5. Sounds very common to feel this way! Just remember, there's nothing you can do - it's hard being out of control - so control what you can - pregnancy vitamins, healthy diet, exercise if you feel like it, sleep!

I'm 10+6 and extremely anxious too. I just feel like everything I do could possibly cause harm to baby, even just talking about it. I pride myself on being logical in all areas of life but we shared the news with someone very special to us yesterday and then a couple of hours later I had a bleed. (got checked out, all okay) I had all these thoughts going on telling me that it's gonna happen every time I tell someone. I know that's impossible but the anxiety is convincing!

It's shit, I did the miscarriage calculator every day and wrote it at the top of that days work diary. It helped a little to see the numbers get better and better. When I went back after mat leave I saw all those numbers and remembered what a horribly anxious time it was. I did fine a couple of additional scans helpful but they're only a snapshot of time so don't feel they're a necessity.

I look back now and wish I'd enjoyed it more but that's so easy to say with hindsight. I hope you have a wonderfully uneventful pregnancy x

Thank you everyone glad I’m not alone in this feeling! It’s so hard isn’t it 😪
I don’t know why I have ectopic in my head so badly it’s driving me insane and every little twinge sends me into the spiral and starts me googling all night 🙈 when I’m busy doing other things I feel much better but when I’m not busy it’s awful

First timer 11 weeks here. Completely get this, very much wanted pregnancy and the anxiety started within hours. By the time I got to the 8 week scan I was convinced they'd tell me bad news but it was fine. Now frozen with anxiety waiting for my 12 week scan next week.

I also had pains and thought ectopic but it wasn't, apparently the pain is normal.

Please speak to people about how you are feeling. It's really hard and I find it helps to talk as long as the person doesn't just say it will be all alright!

It really helped me getting an 8 week scan, I didn't do earlier as was told it could be inconclusive. I'd also recommend not pregnancy testing again, I drove myself crazy with this.

If you want to chat, just DM.

I relate to this!! Only just tested positive on Saturday and I'm worried about my lack of symptoms. I've seen endless posts about people obsessing over line progression and never thought that would be me but I have taken 4 more tests since the first just to check it's still there 🙄

I am entitled to an early scan so having one on August 18th which I am really really hoping will be positive and help ease my concerns!

All your symptoms seem totally normal for a healthy pregnancy so try to relax 😌

Thank you so much everyone for all your replies! I honestly thought I would be over the moon just to get a positive but apparently I’m just stressing instead 🙈 doesn’t help when symptoms come and go either!

For those that has booked an early scan now and where did you go about doing this? we are thinking about booking a scan for the 8 weeks point 🤞

I haven’t tested since the day after my BFP which I'm happy about because I see people stressing over them but at the same time it’s worrying because they could be light now and I’ll never know!

Have a look online and search for viability/early reassurance scans. I didn't really have much choice in my area as both scan centres are over an hour away but looked at the CQC reports to check they were okay, then picked based on availability of appointments. Some places get booked up early so worth booking it now.