Just got a BFP and don't know what to think; just need to talk it out.

[WhatAMuppet]

I have a DD less than a year old who I still BF. Periods have been erratic since she was 9weeks old, and shortest cycle has been 7 wks. DH and I did the deed two weeks into my last cycle (I know, I know ), and I think I ovulated a couple of days later (CM, but not as much or as gloopy as usual (sorry tmi ).

anyway, DH and I discussed it in a "what if" fashion, neither of us actually thinking that I would be pg (in fact DH in complete denial about it). I haven't been able to stop worrying about it though and have been testing daily since Saturday and got a very faint, but definately there, line this evening.

I really don't know how I feel. Part excited, as I always wanted more than two children, but I'm no spring chicken, my health isn't great, I still have lower back issues from my recent pregnancy, and we can't really afford it. Our current outgoings are greater than DHs wage, but if I went back to work we'd have two lots of full time childcare so I'd be working for nothing and we still couldn't pay all the bills

Shitey shitey shitey shite.

I haven't broken the news to DH yet. He is away, but back tomorrow night.

I've been quite lucky tbh, I have otehr issues (restricted blood flow to the placenta) as well as the VBA2C and my cons is still supporting me.

The thing is, after a CS they are often happy to do a VBAC, but then after two they say they aren't. There is no real medical reason for this, the chances of uterine rupture do not increase significantly after two CS's, the risk for VBA2C or VBAC is almost the same, it does increase slightly with VBA3C, but even then it's not a huge change.

The best thing to do is when you see your m/w, ask for your consultants referral (which you'll get anyway being a previous CS) and then tell your cons you want a VBA2C. They cannot actually refuse you, just advise against, at which point you say 'I appreciate your advice, but unless this baby is compromised I shall be waiting to 42 weeks for my vaginal birth, if it isn't here by then then we will discuss either an el cs or expectant management.'

There is a thread here on which I've posted some links that may help.

thanks VS. I'll need to toughen up a bit; I tend to just demurely accept what I'm told. I'll go in armed with lots of information so they can see I'm making an informed decision

thanks for the link

Could just do what I did.
Cry
I went in with all my info and was prepared for a fight with the cons.
Only to break down and tell her I couldnt possibly have another CS whe she mentioned it