2 weeks further on than I thought - so why am I feeling so depressed?

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Finally saw a midwife at what I thought was 34 weeks (had been seeing GP up till now) and MW says I am 36 weeks not 34. Although I am huge and not that comfortable, the news has really thrown me.
I have been crying a lot for no good reason and feeling a bit panicky. I am terrified that as a depressive I will end up with PND. Up till now I have been feeling quite calm but now I feel overwhelmed and out of control.
Sorry I just need to vent.

Hi - I don't have experience of depression, but wanted to say I'm sure what you're feeling is normal. You are tired, hormonal and now you have been given unexpected news about your pregnancy.

Did you find this out today? Give yourself tonight to sleep on the news and see how you feel tomorrow.

If you really feel it is the start of depression, please go and see your midwife.

Good luck with the imminent birth too x

I would trust your 20 week scan date over and above your MW doing fundal measurements tbh. That aside - agree with meemar, give yourself time to recover from todays appointment, then if you still feel down, speak to GP or MW (whichever you feel most comfortable with).

Thanks MM and TC, appt was yesterday but had crap night's sleep last night and stuff going in my life which is getting me down also.
I know it is hormonal as I have been blessed up till now with a textbook pg but feel floored at the mo.
I am due to go and see my GP on Friday so if i am still feeling like this I will tell her.

at 35 weeks pregnant, I cried (really really sobbed like a, well like a baby) because DP went out the house without telling me that he was going. I felt really shaky and scared and normally I'm not that arsed where he is . He thought I was asleep upstairs. At this stage of pregnancy you know the birth could happen any minute and the slightest unexpected thing can really upset you.

Being told you're two weeks further along at this stage is actually quite huge because you've been planning to a different due date all along.

Give yourself a break and get yourself a hug ans some chocolate.

Aww hun it will be your hormones all over the place. Can i ask is this your first child or second? The reason this news has thrown you is because its a big jump that close to the end but at this part of pregnancy the littlest things can upset you and this is quite big news really. Big hugs x x x

FWIW I have also suffered from serious depression in the past and my GP assured me that it did not make me more likely to get PND. In fact, in some ways, it's useful to have suffered from depression previously because you are likely to spot the signs much earlier should PND start to develop. If you're really worried about PND, get yourself a plan for what you will do if you think it's happening to you. I contacted the therapist I had seen previously, saw her for a couple of sessions because I was anxious about being pregnant and agreed with my DP I would make an appointment to see her again the moment he or I thought PND had started.

Truly, the news you;ve had today would have thrown most people. You;re not weak for reacting emotionally to it, if that's what you think.

Could be having your baby sooner which is good if you're not comfy. Get organised with hospital bag & at home. You don't need much just nappies, some clothes & a car seat - once this is sorted you might feel better. At least you know in advance xxx

Can I ask how the midwife thought you were 36 weeks all of a sudden?

I saw several midwives towards the end of my last pregnancy, and every single one of them came up with different size of baby opinions (all wrong) - I take everything they say with a large pinch of salt!

Hugs to you, xxx

Thanks everyone, that's a huge help to be told its normal to feel like this.
Have just remembered I DO have some chocolate.
I dont know how MW came to that conclusion TBH. Poss because my two scans showed diff dates, but they were only a week apart
Think just I need time to get used to it.

My bag is nearly packed, just need some big knickers which I plan to buy tomorrow.

What would we all do without Mumsnet? Feel better now - thanks again.