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Ex threatening while pregnant

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Mumof2babe · 27/07/2023 21:47

Just looking for a place of support and to vent.

Early last month I called it quits with my partner after months of just emotional abuse. Two days ago I recieved a message from him basically saying how he was in debt and could no longer pay the rent of the property and couldn't live like that anymore and needed to get another place for him.and his som from.his last relationship. I have never expected or asked him to carrying on paying rent his legally binded to a tenancy agreement to pay until October he is the only one of the agreement and hopefully I can take over after that. I am 2 months from giving birth while this should be an exciting time it really isn't. The last two days I have done but stress and worry over the situation. I have tried calling and texting but getting no response from him which I feel is very childish behaviour, i feel like he could have done this a better way by sitting down and talking like adults. His has never really taken an interest in his unborn child. But since being gone he hasn't asked once if everything is OK, if I need anything, not even asked about midwife appointments literally nothing until that text which came out the blue. I have informed him that when I go into labour I will be having only my mum in the room as I want a peaceful relaxing non stressful labour as physically possible and to be honest Im just not comfortable with him being In there after everything. But is more then welcome to visit once the baby has arrived and go from there. His now kicking up threatening court because I am stopping him from seeing his child, when in reality he is the one ignoring me by not answering the phone. I only said he couldn't be in the labour room, I feel like he is just being bitter and throwing his weight around trying to scare me which I am not going to let happen. Sorry for such a long post just needed to get it off my chest and if anyone else has been in a situation like this.

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BudgetBuster · 28/07/2023 07:16

Are you still in the house / apartment and not paying rent?

Mindymomo · 28/07/2023 07:25

He has left you, he doesn’t have a say in being with you when you go into labour, it’s your choice. Think hard about whether you want his name on birth certificate, you can still go for maintenance, it just means he may have to go to Court for access, which will be expensive for him. For your own mental wellbeing, I wouldn’t contact him anymore until baby has arrived and take it from there. Have you asked your landlord about taking over the rental, I would do that now, does your ex have keys.

Mumof2babe · 28/07/2023 08:17

That is definitely one thing I have been thinking about and to be honest I probably won't put his name of the birth certificate. I haven't yet going to track down their details today and try to get in contact and get everything changed into my name see if they'll let me take over sooner. As his tenancy agreement ends in october. Thank you for your advice I won't be contact him anymore trying to concentrate on getting through the next 2 month

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