Frustrated about options and treatment after miscarriage

[Mrsmozza123]

So, I should be 12 weeks pregnant now but after some bleeding and an early scan I found out that the embryo stopped developing at 7weeks although the sac has continued to grow and is measuring as it should for 12 weeks. So a confirmed missed/delayed miscarriage.
After a few days of sadness I have accepted that pregnancy is not meant to be.
However a second scan on Wednesday detected some tiny movement which meant they could not rule out a feint trace of a heartbeat. No one is suggesting the pregnancy could in any way survive but because if this they are refusing me any medical treatment to move things along.
I am so frustrated and distressed knowing that the only option is to wait for the poor thing to die or for my body to pass the pregnancy before I can move on and start to physically and mentally recover. I am in absolute purgatory.
There was an absolute refusal to discuss my wishes with me at the hospital and was sent away to wait a WEEK for another scan. I’m bleeding a lot and feel like a ticking time bomb, darent leave the house for long and really just want some closure. I even said I wanted a termination but they wouldn’t discuss that with me.
Not sure what I want to ask but does this sound like reasonable treatment? Has anyone experienced anything similar?

I’m very sorry, it is horrible to be left in limbo. It makes no sense that you could request an abortion at this stage but you can’t decide to medically manage a missed miscarriage.
I had 4 miscarriages at around 10 weeks and in my experience the miscarriage would start in earnest within a couple of days of bleeding starting. When I was being monitored the embryo had stopped developing a couple of weeks prior. My friend who also suffered swore by going out and furiously digging the garden. I hope it all happens for you soon and you get some closure.

@Patchworksack thanks for your reply. The bleeding started 6 days ago so I’m hoping something passes soon.
I’ve been lunging around the house with the hoover. in the meantime I think the garden does need some weeding…

@Mrsmozza123 so sorry you're going through this. I had a scan at 7 weeks which basically showed my pregnancy wouldn't last, then one 9 days later where the heart beat was still there but baby hadn't grown at all in that time. I had to go back for a scan 10 days later, and I started bleeding the next day (still had to wait for that third scan). Ended up finding out that baby died literally right after the second scan, and bled all the way up until having surgical management (over 2 weeks after the second scan). Limbo is a horrible place to be and I completely understand not wanting to go out, I felt the same. Can you phone back and say you're bleeding and see if they will bring the scan forward?

@moosey89 sorry for what you went through. That must have felt like eternity!
I was bleeding during both my scans so I don’t think it would make a difference, worth a try though.
it is genuinely reassuring to hear am not alone in this experience. It’s literally not in any of the information literature that you can be in limbo like this and no one ever talks about these things.