6 weeks pregnant- 2 babies!

[Choccy333]

Hi all,

I feel blessed as I recently found out I’m expecting my 2nd child. My first is 2.5. I went for an early scan yesterday just to check there was a heartbeat (for reassurance) and I was told there are 2 heartbeats and that I’m expecting twins!

It has come as a complete shock for me and my husband as we always planned on having 2 children. We have a smallish house with 3 bedrooms, and a smallish car. The financial worry of having to buy an extra cot, double buggy, etc, is stressing me out!

I’m also worried about how my first will cope as she is a real mummy’s girl, and also panicking about the birth and whether I will be forced in to a c-section!

Twins have separate yolk sacks and a 70% chance of being identical.

I guess I am just looking for reassurance that all will be okay! X

OMG congratulations! I have zero experience as there are no twins in our family but I'm sure others will be along with advice and support. I jst wanted to congratulate you! I can't even imagine the mixture of shock and excitement!

There multiple sets of twins in my family (I don’t have twins myself but didn’t want to read and run). It will be okay. Children can share a room. You can put 3 children in an average size car. Lots of things can be borrowed or purchased second hand. You can have twins vaginally, in the same way you can have a singleton by c section. Your older child won’t know any different. Try TAMBA for advice. There’s also Sure Start maternity grant for multiples.

There’s also something fairly magical about the twin relationship. I was disappointed not to have them because of witnessing it and experiencing it myself.

Congratulations! Wow, I can appreciate that is a huge shock, and I think it's normal to have some worries as it wasn't what you had planned.

I don't have twins myself so can't advise on that, but I do have 4DC in a three bedroomed apartment, after a 'surprise' shortly after DC3 was born. I have 3 DS, and they share a big room. They are all fine (eldest is 14 now), and we did convert storage space into a work area/games room so he has somewhere quiet to go to do homework now, but that's a while away for you. We have offered to move, but the DC really do not want to, so we have stayed where we are. We have learnt that there are much more important things than the ideal of having your own bedroom, the kids are all happy and so we follow their lead.

We did buy a bigger car eventually but that was purely because I wanted to participate in car pools. Which as our car was full, we couldn't! So two years ago we bought an 8 seater. We also have a cargo electric bike (we have the urban arrow) which is great for zipping around with all of them. I would recommend looking into one of these, if you have a budget, rather than a new car. We have the rain cover and so could use it in the winter months too. Even now, we use it to taxi the bigger kids (or adult friends who visit, rather than booking a taxi!).

But while they were all small, it wasn't an issue and my older DC really chipped in with the entertainment of the younger DC. They still do! And the younger ones adored their siblings as babies, really loved them (and still do).

I actually really miss the days of having little kids running around! It did get a bit messy for a while as I struggled to keep on top of the housework BUT it was just a phase and I tried not to lose too much sleep over it. The DC were loved, fed, safe and secure. That was all that they needed. I just had to relax my standards a bit for a period of their childhood, until everyone was a bit more autonomous.

Congratulations OP. You got this!

I take it you had no suspicions? Are you having really strong symptons?? Congratulations! My dad is a twin but I have no experience myself. I've heard it can be easier in some ways as they sleep and play together?

Congratulations!! I don't have twins but my best friend does and they are much easier than my toddler 🤣 they've been an absolute dream! I can understand your shock, I'd feel exactly the same because my situation is very similar to yours. I agree with the previous poster, you can buy things second hand - my friend got a great bargain on her pram from another twin mum. You'll make this work, and definitely apply for the Sure Start grant 😊 it must be quite the shock but it will all work out 😍