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Worried i am having a missed miscarriage Help

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 13:53

Hi, so two days ago i booked a private reassurance scan and going by my IVF frozen transfer i was 6 weeks 3 days, when she scanned me she done it on my tummy and i was under the impression being this early it should be internally, everywhere i have read and on most of websites state its better to scan early vaginally as you can see more, anyway all we could see was a black space with a small white dot in the middle, she told me she couldn't see much and that i was only measuring 4-5 weeks, i asked her to do a internal one but she said it wont make any difference but surely i would? since then i have been sick with worry and stress and obsessed with google and now i am diagnosing myself with a missed miscarriage, i have my viability scan with my IVF clinic on Tuesday and i am so scared.
I still have sore boobs but that could be the medication i am still on, i have been having white/clear discharge but noting else, when i first got my BFP i was always bloated but that's eased off now.
Has anyone experienced the same type of thing and been totally fine ? i am so worried.

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MiladyBlue · 20/07/2023 14:05

Early scans & HPT are a curse in many cases.

I had my internal scan after IVF at the fertility unit at 6+2 and things were very clear.
I had zero symptoms at all. I had had sore boobs for one night, the night before I tested, and that was it. My teen is currently sitting next to me eating lunch.
Try not to worry, easier said than done I know. If you hadn’t had the scan two days ago you would be eagerly awaiting your scan on Tuesday so try to put that one out of your mind. Congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope Tuesdays scan leaves you feeling happier.

worldsworsthangover · 20/07/2023 14:09

That early she should've done an internal scan definitely. Can you call them back and state you would like it done transvaginal? Maybe if you explain how much you've been worrying since ?

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 15:21

I don't think I want to go back to that branch to be honest and I thought if I wait till Tuesday I will be further along in the pregnancy (I hope) so hopefully will see more . Thank you for your response I really appreciate it

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 15:25

I have had two pregnancies and with both I didn't get any symptoms either, I keep trying to think of positives but it's hard , I am still getting white discharge so I am hoping that is a good sign , I am still on medication so hoping that will help , I also have a retroverted uterus so guessing that hinders a good view with abdominal scan this early , really hope Tuesday brings betters news and thank you so much for your response it has helped

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CR7 · 20/07/2023 15:49

I've never heard of a private scan offering internal scans personally and I did quite a lot of research (unless you're going somewhere fancy like the Portland in London). I had my private scan at 6+6 by my ivf clinic and it was internal (so you are right to have expected that)

I've been to three different places for private scans and all were external. They definitely didn't have the equipment for an internal x.

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 17:18

That's really strange , maybe it's the area your in as all the ones who offer early reassurance scans state on the website internal , even the one I went too , they state they will do external and if they can't see much they will do internal hence the reason why I asked for it but was told it won't make a difference which is totally wrong as they do make a big difference.

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CR7 · 20/07/2023 17:25

Katestove · 20/07/2023 17:18

That's really strange , maybe it's the area your in as all the ones who offer early reassurance scans state on the website internal , even the one I went too , they state they will do external and if they can't see much they will do internal hence the reason why I asked for it but was told it won't make a difference which is totally wrong as they do make a big difference.

Oh wow! Maybe yes down to geography. Really strange she wouldn't switch then? Not surprised you don't want to go back xx

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 17:38

Nope, unless she new something was wrong and didn't want to say 😢I'm hoping she just couldn't be bothered and hope my scan on Tuesday puts my mind at ease x

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Alloveragain3 · 20/07/2023 17:42

So frustrating OP but it's still really early days.
As you say, hopefully she couldn't see much as it wasn't a transvaginal scan. Maybe they don't have that type of probe available and only do abdominal scans?
I had a private reassurance scan at 7+1 and that was abdominal; I'm not sure they offered transvaginal.

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Katestove · 20/07/2023 19:11

Hi, its if its 6 week or under they do the internal due to it being so early and they can get closer to the uterus, place i went to advertised they do it internally., i have googles a lot since and loads of places do it and loads of information on it, i have one booked on Tuesday at my IVF clinic and that one is all so internally.

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moosey89 · 20/07/2023 20:18

She absolutely should have done internal if nothing was visible on external! I had a baby measuring 7 weeks and because I had a retroverted (tilted back) uterus you couldn't see anything on the abdominal scan at all! You can have an internal scan any time, I'm so confused why she wouldn't do one. I don't know how your story will end OP as there's no way to say for sure without a proper scan image, but I hope you get answers on Tues x

Mangotango39 · 21/07/2023 04:52

Early scans are the standard where I am .

I had a scan 6 + 6 and externally you could just about see just a flicker. Internally it was a lot clearer with pole, yolk sac and baby blob at the time .

I wouldn't be happy they didn't do internal at that stage - they definitely should have!! Especially if they advertise having that.

I wouldn't worry yet at all x

AlanJohnsonsBeamer · 21/07/2023 05:37

I had a private scan at 7 weeks and they done an external and internal just to be sure 😕 I also had a small amount of bleeding and reduced symptoms at 6 weeks. The EPU saw me the same day for reassurance - DS 7 months is sitting next to me. Please try not to worry.

I would call again and say you're unhappy with your last scan.

I would also reach out to the EPU and see if they can assist. You might be lucky and they may see you if some of your symptoms have stopped. No guarantee but don't know if you don't ask.

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Katestove · 21/07/2023 06:50

Hi, that's exactly what I have too which makes it even harder to see on a external scan , although she didn't know this as I didn't think it would make much difference until I got home and googled it but either way it still should of been internal x thank you I am really hoping all is ok x

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AlanJohnsonsBeamer · 25/07/2023 15:56

Hi @Katestove.

Have you had another scan? Hope all is okay x

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Katestove · 25/07/2023 16:36

Hi yes, I am still measuring a week behind but they seen a heart beat , they also said as it's grown a week within a week that could be a good sign , I have to go back in a week, I've done nothing but cry all day , just really hope it grows this week. Thank you for asking means a lot

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CR7 · 25/07/2023 17:10

@Katestove sending love x

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Katestove · 25/07/2023 17:28

Thank you x

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amyg1985 · 25/07/2023 18:03

@Katestove keeping my fingers crossed for you x

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Katestove · 25/07/2023 18:10

Thank you so much x

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HumphreysCorner · 01/08/2023 20:09

How did you get on today lovely? X

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