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Pregnant and ex blocked me off everything

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rosepetals2023 · 19/07/2023 17:02

Hi ladies,
Recently was in a short term relationship which ended. I found out I was pregnant a week later (was on the pill so not planned). Ex was adamant I get an abortion and initially I did book in for one despite not being 100% sure I wanted one. I updated him when the appointment was and he told me not to bother telling him how the procedure went as he had booked himself a last minute holiday the day of the appointment and didn’t want to be disturbed. He’s also blocked me on everything.
I couldn’t go through with the abortion in the end and thankfully have a great support network so have decided to continue the pregnancy. I am completely aware he will most likely not be involved at all or avoid any contribution (he already said he will move country to avoid paying CM despite me never bringing it up).

I feel he should know I have decided to continue the pregnancy. I did try ringing him and he never responded and I am blocked on everything since I told him of the pregnancy so no means of contacting him. Should I just leave it?
Any advice appreciated 😊

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Mumof4plusbonus · 19/07/2023 21:28

I think he knew there was a chance you would change your mind and this was an easy out for him. He can move on claiming he thought you got an abortion. Do what suits you.

Temporaryname158 · 19/07/2023 21:38

Whatever you do, do not name him on the birth certificate.

if you do you will give him parental rights and he can use those as he wishes!

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rosepetals2023 · 20/07/2023 20:35

Thanks all. He contacted me today so I informed him I am continuing the pregnancy and that if he wants information regarding the baby in the future then he has my contact details.
He made it pretty clear he is not interested in any of it and he has moved on with some other woman. I won’t be contacting him anymore.

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BudgetBuster · 20/07/2023 20:52

You have done your bit OP! Enjoy your pregnancy and hit the b××tard with CMS 😂

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rosepetals2023 · 20/07/2023 21:54

@BudgetBuster thanks just need this morning sickness to subside and I’ll be able to enjoy it more !😅xx

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HowcanIhelp123 · 20/07/2023 22:18

I'd have been tempted to ask him how on board new woman is with his plan to move abroad to avoid CMS 😂

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rosepetals2023 · 21/07/2023 08:42

@HowcanIhelp123 haha exactly 😂😂 I found out he was taking her on dates while we were together. I do feel sorry for her though she probably had no clue bump or I exist. Won’t get involved, hopefully she finds out on her own accord xx

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Bellabeemarie · 21/07/2023 08:58

I have no advice to offer you sound like you know exactly what your doing ❤

Just wanted to say I'm sorry you've had to go through something like this ... but you get the to make all the fun decisions on your own! Yipppppe! Baby names, choosing the pram ect without anyone moaning I dont like that one, or I dont think that colours nice ect... I know it may be hard at times but try and find the positives when you do face a hard time...

I'm glad you have a good support network feel free to PM me if you ever feel like you just need someone to chat to or rant ect know your not alone ❤

Goodluck with your pregnancy xx

SwordToFlamethrower · 21/07/2023 09:21

Don't put him on the birth certificate! Don't tell him anything.

He is better off out of your life.

I say this as a mother of children from an accidental pregnancy where I wasn't in a good relationship. I have endured 19 years of hell from my ex who just got more and more abusive. I wish I'd never included him in my pregnancy or kid.

Congratulations!

Theshoeswithlaces · 21/07/2023 09:31

Yep you've done your bit now. You have permission to move on with your life, which will be easier without him in it. Be mindful he may contact in future and keep evidence of all previous contact. Enjoy your pregnancy and new baby!

FartSock5000 · 21/07/2023 10:44

@rosepetals2023 if he didn't want babies, he should have had the snip! He is 100% at fault for your pregnancy. Remember, men are fertile all of the time but woman are only fertile for a very short window each month. This is ALL on him and his lack of control. He can act butthurt like you trapped him all he wants but the truth is fact and contraception is never fully foolproof. I know woman who were dedicated pill takers (one who had sex with spermicides too) and condoms and still got pregnant.

You've given him the means to have a relationship with his child. That is all you have to do.

Enjoy your pregnancy and bonding time once little one arrives BUT please do claim CMS because your child is owed that support. If the loser with the loose sperms chooses to leave the UK to dodge what he owes, then let him. They'll get him when he moves back and these wankstains always creep back.

isthesolution · 21/07/2023 11:09

Do not contact him. You and your child are better off without him.

When your child is born apply for maintenance. If he moves country to avoid paying it then that's his choice.

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rosepetals2023 · 21/07/2023 13:36

Thank you all ladies 😊 Much happier being on my own. The oddest thing is that he was the one asking me to come off BC saying he wanted kids but I wouldn’t come off it as it was far too soon. Can see now I was nothing to him and was lovebombed. But onwards and upwards the baby will be very much loved by myself xx

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