Likely MMC - scan tomorrow

[8251peacock]

Hi all

Have just turned 42 and in theory am 8wks today but am absolutely convinced this is a second MMC, had one last April at 6w6d, found out at about 8wks at ‘reassurance’ scan.

Still not really feeling sick, the odd moment of nausea but barely anything. Zero bleeding or anything like that. Have the odd string cramp here and there. Boobs still sore and pg test still strong positive but honestly feels exactly like last time, when I booked the early scan because I knew it felt wrong and I was correct. Have booked a scan for tomorrow as we go on holiday soon and I’d rather just know than be stuck in this am I aren’t I limbo. Not done anything like booking in online or anything as convinced it won’t happen.

Have been feeling ok about it all, feel I’ve accepted the inevitable but today I feel quite ill with anxiety about the scan tomorrow. Not even so much the outcome, I feel ready for that, but for everyone being all sympathetic and nice when I will just want to get out of there immediately.

Not expecting anything from this thread, just thought getting my anxiety into words might help me.

Is this your second pregnancy or do you have children already?

I had a MMC before my son, and honestly there wasn't any difference in how I felt for the MMC and for my pregnancy that was successful. I was so convinced there'd be nothing there at my scan again, I felt so sure of it I was almost in tears as I walked in. I think a MMC makes you feel like you can't trust your body at all. Or that was the way it made me feel anyway.

Really hoping your scan tomorrow is okay

In 15 weeks today and still symptomless. I have put on about 2kg and I've had scans and I'm definitely pregnant, just symptomless. I hope all goes well for you xx

Really hope your scan surprises you tomorrow. I felt the same with both MMC and successful 2 pregnancies. Strong symptoms with all. Some PP have had no symptoms with MMC and successful pregnancies. There is no hard and fast rule, but totally understand why you feel as you do. Hope tomorrow goes well.

Thank you, I do have one DC, a teenager now though! Last years pg and this one feel exactly the same as each other, whereas with DC I was sick as a dog til about 16 weeks. I know supposedly every pg is different but the no sickness last year felt wrong and I was correct.

You’re absolutely right about MMC making it feel like you can’t trust your body. I’ve never had a ‘regular’ miscarriage but at least with that you know where you stand. A MMC is awful, where you think and symptoms suggest everything is fine, and then it really isn’t.

Just need tomorrow done so I can move on. This will be it for me, I can’t keep doing this and at my age the odds are obv getting worse each time. Should be working now but can’t concentrate at all. I should have booked it for last week but I felt by what should be 8wks I’d get a more definitive answer.

I had a mmc last April as my first pregnancy. I felt pregnant but the 9 week scan said otherwise. I conceived again in the August, I was convinced it would end the same way. I booked another 9 week scan convinced it had ended. I saw a heartbeat. My ds is now 3 months old.

It’s frustrating because the mmc knocks all confidence in trusting your body. It also just adds anxiety to the new pregnancy due to the previous experience. I hope it all goes well for you, it’s good to go to the scan tomorrow and find out.

Pregnancy is so hard after mc.
I have had two and one was missed .

I am having a healthy pregnancy atm (currently 9+5 with two great scans , one yesterday)
I have not been sick at all!!!

I am hoping all goes ok for you tomorrow and gives you some reassurance 🙏

Obviously only you know your own body and I totally get why you feel the way you do for self preservation but I think you should hold out hope. From what I've read on here, its very common not to have any sickness and I've come across people having all the textbook symptoms and it ending in loss, to people having no symptoms and having healthy babies. Symptoms means absolutely nothing in my eyes.

I had a normal (I say normal) MC at the start of the year and I'm now 11 weeks into this second pregnancy. Whilst I've been tempted to get a private scan, I decided to wait it out and try to trust my body. I also have not had much in the way of symptoms, certainly no sickness, and I didn't with the first one either. I'm worried sick there won't be anything there but hoping for the best, its really tough.

I really hope you are pleasantly surprised tomorrow xx

I had similar. My first pregnancy with DD (now aged 22) was full of symptoms. I was sick as a dog, felt like death, covered in stretchmarks.

I then had a MMC in 2020; didn't have many symptoms, things felt a bit 'off'. I had a normal miscarriage early 2021. Then conceived DD2, had barely any symptoms, went for a million scans throughout the first trimester as I'd convinced myself it was another MMC and she's now 17 months old. The pregnancy was utterly different to my first pregnancy; no sickness, felt fine, and DD2 was born full term totally healthy.

So whilst I understand your anxiety and thought process, I'm keeping everything crossed that all is progressing as it should.

Hi @8251peacock how did your scan go? xx

Sorry for slow update, only just got done now.

Clinic I went to this time wasn’t great tbh, not very informative but having read the report they gave me it’s definitely as I suspected, measuring 3.2mm which they called ‘inconclusive’ but at 8 weeks when it should be about 15mm, I’d call that conclusive! No heartbeat either obvs. Am 100% on my dates, tested positive for first time on 21st June so no way I could be that far behind now. They just kept saying inconclusive and I’m like, how is that inconclusive?!

I didn’t mention this before but I never actually told DP, we are solid as a rock but he has no kids and was pretty upset last time, and tbh as messed up as it may sound to some, I’m so so glad I haven’t dragged him through this again.

Feel better for having it confirmed. When you know, you know.

@8251peacock in so sorry :( I don’t know much about this but could it be that you ovulated later and therefore not as far as you thought?

@8251peacock so very sorry to read your update xx

I do hope when you're ready you can tell him. It's a lot to go through on your own?

Yeah definitely not, I’d have had to have tested positive on the conception date for it to be that small now. 100% positive it’s another MMC.

tbh no, I won’t be telling him. I feel ok about it and why upset him. We’re due a lovely holiday together soon and I’d rather just move on. He doesn’t need the burden and I know what I’m like, it sounds weird but I move on quickly.

all good. Thank you for support x

Whatever works best for you x