Pregnant and single

[Babsmal]

Hi dear mums, I Really need an honest advice. I ve a 5 yo boy from my ex husband. I had a relationship with another man for 1 year then we recently broke up and I’m 6 weeks pregnant. I’m part time worker looking for full time job. I feel so ashamed of my self cause of my pregnancy. I’m scared about what people , friends , family would say. I’m 41 and I don’t feel ready mentally and physically for another baby . I ve booked for a surgical abortion on 10th /08. But I’m full of doubts . I ve no one here in my city for helping me and I’m scared I won’t be able to handle two children alone .😓I feel every day more depressed and desperate.

You poor thing that sounds tough. I don't have any advice (sorry!) but I wouldn't worry about others' judgement. This is up to you as the one going through it x

Don’t worry about what others think, this is your life. Make your decision and own it.

Congratulations !! 41 is not too old and your son will get a sibling. Don't care about what people think this is YOUR life. I'd keep it and continue working part time and start claiming benefits. But the decision is yours

Hope you are feeling ok today OP. What ever you decide don’t worry about anyone else. Everyone is different, the decision is up to you. I would probably do the same in your situation as in terminate but maybe that’s because I have a 1 year old and I’m pregnant (18 weeks) about to be single and I know how hard it is to rear a child it being fresh in my head with my 1 year old. Having a newborn is no joke and can be so so hard even with a partner!. Think about your decision carefully and when you decide for definite come back on here for support. There are so many people willing to listen and help including myself!
best of luck and keep us updated ❤️

Sending lots of love to you.

Whatever you do, don’t make a decision based on your fears around what other people would think and how they would judge you. I speak from experience. I don’t regret my abortion as it was the right decision for me at the time but I regret the way I made the decision and how much of it was based on fear of judgement. It was 13 years ago and it still upsets me that I was that bothered by what other people would think. Most people wouldn’t have actually cared that much. I wish I had focused on myself and what I really wanted and how I really felt.

Maybe do some journaling around this? Try and shut out those other voices, take some deep breaths and really focus on yourself and what you want and what’s best for your lovely little family.

Hope you’re OK xxxx