Am I mad to be considering no4?

[Hzky3]

Hi there am I totally nuts to be considering baby no4 4th c secrion(cleared by dr) at the ag3 of 36?
My other children are 15,12&nearly10 I get wo many mixed opinions on the subject friends and family tell me I must be mad if I go back to those days and it puts negative thoughts over it... I feel I didn't fet to enjoy the younger years of my children as they were all pretty close togeather total madness but now feel I have the time and love to fully enjoy those first hard years I feel empty without a little one using up my time so feel confident it's the right decision but still get doubts not helped by friends etc

You do you!!!

I am biased as i have just had my 3rd (4mths) and my eldest 2dcs are 19 &15! I have so much more patience the other 2dcs love him to pieces and although the sleepless nights took a bit of getting used to again I am so glad that we had him and feel like he has been apart of our family forever.

If you want another have one, I say go for it.

Absolutely not mad at all, me on the other hand lol...I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant with baby number 9 😲😲🤣🤣🤣. My eldest is 20 and have also just found out that I'm going to be a nanny. Our babies will be 8 weeks apart . I literally would not have my life any other way. Go for it love , its your life who cares what other people think 😂

I've got 4 and had 4 c sections. Message me if you have any questions.

Im not sure how to message you from here so would you message me id love to hear more

Wow am suprised at the different opinions on this.
Space in our home thankfully bot a problem we have a kargo 4 bedroom with small garden.
Financially we would manage ok. İ think the thought of birth a 4th section is my biggest hurdle

@Hzky3 currently pregnant on number 4 at 36 years of age! Our other kids will be 9,7,7 when little one will be born. This wasn’t a planned pregnancy and came as a massive shock.
It sounds really bad of me to say but I feel more excited about this pregnancy more than the other pregnancies as I know for sure this will be be last. Myself and hubby are also a little older (and we like to think wiser🙈) and also having 3 kids under 3 at one point was hectic and I know from being there before that this time it will be a little bit more relaxed. We also have our kids to share it with us.
I can’t give you advice on the C-section side of things, 1st was vaginal and twins were section. I’ve been told that if all is going well during scans/appointments I can opt for vaginal again, but won’t know till closer the time I suppose.
I believe what’s meant for you won’t pass you.
Us others can only share advice and how we find it but only you can do what’s right for you.
Hope whatever it is you decide to do works out for you ☺️

Sorry OP, I agree with this poster. But all means have DC4 if you can afford it, and are in good health, and truly feel that they would complete your family. But having a baby because you feel empty when you aren’t caring for a small child is not a good reason and only delays the inevitable. Going by the ages in your OP you were so young when you had DC1. It’s completely understandable that you might have lost a bit of who you are when you aren’t being a mum. Please make sure that you consider your other goals and ambitions when you make your decision.

Not worried about climate change and dwindling resources, eh?

Birth rates are falling, don't worry about it.

Go for it 😊 x

Sorry but yes you are, mum of 4 here. Is three teenagers not enough?🤯

Your hormones tricking you I expect OP, try to ignore it, do you really want sleepless nights, nappies not to mention endless school runs again? You can’t forever have babies. Your children are growing up, it’s time to find something for you. Good luck with whatever you decide, wishing you all the best.

The emptiness ofcourse will happen however number of children we have and you learn to accept and love them more &more as they grow into adulthood. But instead of feeling relieved i still feel very maternal im still active and healthy enough to do it again i see pregnant women and want to experience that again the urge my side is immense and i have tried to ignore it for the past 3 to 4 years but it doesn't go away and i feel like im at a point i need to decide as i close in on 40 my fertility will probably make that choice for me i may end up regretting not going ahead now but i dont think you ever regret the children you have planned or suprise

Yes

I was 13 when my brother was born, and 15 when my sister was born. Although I loved them it was a nuisance having a newborn in the house when I was in my teens, it changed everything. I have a an older brother and a younger one but it was awful.

I don’t think a sense of emptiness is inevitable at all.

It sounds like this thread has helped you to make up your mind. Good luck.

Would you say i sound mad and the decsion will be go for it lol

I say go for it!!

I’ve loved having more children after a 10+ year gap, great having another set of children with the perspective of already having bought up a set of children. So many things I stressed about and had limited tolerance for first time that really don’t care about this time and lovely doing it in much more comfortable circumstances and all the technology we now have as well. No regrets at all. The grown up children have such a lovely bond with the little ones too

I don’t see the issue honestly. Why not have 4 if you want 4? As long as you can afford them then the more the merrier. Having 4+ kids is still very normal in many countries, often with large age gaps. If you want one more and you’re sure, then why not 🤗

Hey.I have 3 and want a 4th, so does OH. if your both financially stable and mentally ready then why not go for it. xx

Same here!